From a goth point of view (I know!) my point of reference for good bass sound stems from the Cure's "Love Song." We all know the bass line, and it cuts through very well. I first saw them in 1992, and last saw them two years ago (2016).
When they played "Love Song" I was surprised at how much low frequencies were coming from the bass, even though the actual bass line can mostly be played comfortably on the guitar (A minor progression). The bass was boomy, for sure, and the note definition was not quite what I'm used to hearing from the radio. But with a mix that included two guitar, two synth parts, and bass, how else are you going to hear all of those parts if you have all the instruments occupying the low-middle frequencies? Furthermore, it was an outdoor venue (Hollywood Bowl).
I think in this case the decision to crank the bass frequencies on the bass was a good one.
A (less goth) counter example I think of is Duran Duran's "Rio." The bass seems to be cranked in the treble frequencies. The sound is very clear, and not boomy at all. Sometimes I think it could actually use a more bass frequencies.
I also try to get a Peter Hook sound (I use a lot of chorus because I'm 80s like that). His sound cuts through very well on records. I don't know what it's like live.
The sound I try to get is what I call "laser sound" - a sound that cuts through the mix without being boomy at all; that makes each note, no matter how low, articulate and clear. I don't know how often I achieve that sound, but that's what I'm going for. My switch from a 210 cab to a 212 cab has been helpful (though I think 810 is best for laser sound).
I have often wondered is more bass (not less) is actually the answer to the riddle of cutting through loud guitars and drums, and while not blanketing the sonic spectrum with overwhelming low frequencies. I fear that if I'm too deep, I'll lose definition on bass, and other instruments also.
It feels like some bands just plug their equipment on and it's always good. Not me....