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Dating Co-workers....?
- Thread starter Nyarlathotep
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Broke up with one, it wasn't pretty. Didn't learn my lesson, and wound up marrying the 2nd one. Been going strong for 18 yrs
Check with the mods, word on the street is the "moderatorium" is basically a singles forum on this website. They all dip into the company ink. So to speak.
I've worked at the same large company for 23 years and have seen quite a lot of instances where people hook up, date, or get married. Almost all of them have ended badly and the divorces have tended to be especially rough.
I think the worst part about it for the people involved is all the talking that goes on during and after. You'll be the subject of a lot of gossip and that's never a good thing. I can point to a pretty well known example here involving a woman, her married co-worker (who's wife worked here as well), a conference room table, and the janitor who walked in on them. That was about 15 years ago and people *still* talk about it. He's long gone but she still works here. So does his ex-wife.
I think the worst part about it for the people involved is all the talking that goes on during and after. You'll be the subject of a lot of gossip and that's never a good thing. I can point to a pretty well known example here involving a woman, her married co-worker (who's wife worked here as well), a conference room table, and the janitor who walked in on them. That was about 15 years ago and people *still* talk about it. He's long gone but she still works here. So does his ex-wife.
Bob Lee (QSC)
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It depends on the people involved. Some people are mature and professional enough to not let the relationship--whether it develops or founders--affect them in the workplace, but many are not.
And a lot depends on the workplace, too; a high-stress, snakepit-type place of work would probably be worse for dating and breakup than a more laid-back, teamwork-oriented place.
And a lot depends on the workplace, too; a high-stress, snakepit-type place of work would probably be worse for dating and breakup than a more laid-back, teamwork-oriented place.
In my office there are more than a few sets of married couples working here.
Most of them have been married more than a decade, and as far as things go at work, theyre fine, Ive seen no issues. My sister and her husband both work here, but dont really interact with each other, as my brother in law works in the adjacent building. In recent years there have been a few girls whom I would have considered takin out had I not been married/involved at the time.
Most of them have been married more than a decade, and as far as things go at work, theyre fine, Ive seen no issues. My sister and her husband both work here, but dont really interact with each other, as my brother in law works in the adjacent building. In recent years there have been a few girls whom I would have considered takin out had I not been married/involved at the time.
Best rule for the most part is 'don't play where you work.' Things can get more than just real awkward if you break up, even if the split is fairly friendly.
Damn. A few that end well.....
Oh, and the girl is OBVIOUSLY hot. Im just a little prouder than Maki after all
Oh, and the girl is OBVIOUSLY hot. Im just a little prouder than Maki after all
it was a long time ago. but it was awkward to the point of me quitting the job to get away from her creepy stalker behavior.
Exactly. And mine was about the most amiable breakup possible. (She's still my best friend.)
If you pick a girl that becomes vindictive afterwards, she can mess your world up bad work-wise, I would think.
If you work in a small office, IMO not a good situation.
I met my wife at a postal mail processing facility the size of a city block with several hundred other folks around. I only saw her three times per shift, at coffee and lunch. We could carpool, talk about the others we worked with and comiserated about our shifts.
We will hit 29 married years next January. And she lets me out to play bass. What a nice lady!
I met my wife at a postal mail processing facility the size of a city block with several hundred other folks around. I only saw her three times per shift, at coffee and lunch. We could carpool, talk about the others we worked with and comiserated about our shifts.
We will hit 29 married years next January. And she lets me out to play bass. What a nice lady!
