Setting up for a gig the other night the sound guy refused to take a DI off my Helix and insisted i use their backline amp (a keyboard amp) that he miced up. He said the PA was worth £20k so couldn't risk the bass player blowing it.
I think he was being ridiculous, what are your insights?
I think he knows the equipment that he has on his stage, and he doesn't know yours. I think he has been burned in the past by having to deal with gear that didn't work like he expected/needed it to. I think he believes that optimizing the bass guitar tone is roughly the 46th most important thing that he needs to do before finishing his night of work. I think he needs to make the band sound passable, and doesn't care to take any risks in trying to make the band sound super.
Given all that, he fed you some BS about how your gear might blow his PA. That sort of comment is just his way of telling you that your request isn't gonna happen. He likely knows how to keep it from blowing his PA, but in the event that he doesn't, at least he put you in a situation where you really can't damage anything beyond the back line keyboard amp.
My guess is that he just wants to run what worked reasonably well during his last show and then go home.
Sorry for your luck; maybe next time you'll get someone who puts in more effort. Not much you can do in such a situation except to tweak that house amp as best as possible using the gear you brought! Some good advice by others to always have extra widgets with you that can help work through it.