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Do your parents Come to your shows?
- Thread starter markoc
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Our parents used to drive us to play on TV shows when we were kids. The whole band fit into one car.
when i was playing regularly, my folks came to one show. granted, they're in recovery, and we generally played at bars, and my mom in particular would have been horribly uncomfortable. so when we played a college gig that started early, they showed up.
i should also point out that my mom once asked when i was "going to give up this music thing."
anyhoo, fast-forward 100 years. my son's been playing in bars since he was 8. he's now 16, and we've been to every show he's played.
my folks are still around. i spoke to my mom over the weekend and mentioned that my son was away doing some band stuff. she said (not for the first time), "is that what he plans to do with his life?" i said yes. she said, "oh," with a tone that implied, "i'm so sorry. i wish there was something i could do. you must be so disappointed."
i don't come from a very musical family.
i should also point out that my mom once asked when i was "going to give up this music thing."
anyhoo, fast-forward 100 years. my son's been playing in bars since he was 8. he's now 16, and we've been to every show he's played.
my folks are still around. i spoke to my mom over the weekend and mentioned that my son was away doing some band stuff. she said (not for the first time), "is that what he plans to do with his life?" i said yes. she said, "oh," with a tone that implied, "i'm so sorry. i wish there was something i could do. you must be so disappointed."
i don't come from a very musical family.
Is that considered "good parenting in advance?"
You're right about that. We are very close with our kids. It's funny that we didn't realize how "different" that was until all 3 were married and we saw how different the relationships were with the in-law kids and their families.
Not sure if there is another thread for this, but as I got older I started having my kids show up to shows. My parents are long gone. My daughters boyfriend was in a band and I made every show, even grabbing set lists off the floor afterwards and making the whole band sign them. I still have them, framed on the wall. Proud of my kids, I think probably my parents would be proud of me.
Sorry about your dad & mom passing. Good memories of them coming.That's awesome.
I am 43. My dad just passed away in may @ 91 years old... and at 90, he was still coming to my shows. My mom passed away 5 years ago, and she always came to every show too. They were well known throughout the club scene hereGod Bless good parents
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Love this pic. So typical for the time with all the Silvertones on stage.
I'm guessing that at that time period, most musicians started off with Silvertones. A friend of my dad owned a small music store and I started with a 1-15 Marathon amp from his store.
The first nightclub gig I played, way back in the 80s, we were all in high school. It was a weeknight at a college oriented live music club. Only people in the audience were our parents.
Bar manager, after asking if our 16-year-old drummer was of age: "you guys draw kind of an older crowd, eh?"
Bar manager, after asking if our 16-year-old drummer was of age: "you guys draw kind of an older crowd, eh?"
When I lived at home, they would come out to most of my high school jazz band & orchestra concerts. My mom would come out to the jazz jams and open mic nights I played around town when I still lived at home, too. That was some 13 years ago.
Last year my dad was visiting, and came to a show I was playing. I forgot how embarrassing that is!!
Last year my dad was visiting, and came to a show I was playing. I forgot how embarrassing that is!!
My ~80 year old grand parents came out to see my high school/college band play at Rock City in New Berlin, Wisconsin. We played southern rock, rather loudly. They were troopers. My grandfather often rested his forehead in his hand, but they lasted the whole first set!
Other than my current partner, no one in my family (nor any friend) has ever come to see me play. Ever. (other than school band concerts when I was playing trombone/tuba, and they stopped coming in Jr High)
My mom shows up and dances.
I haven't giggled lately, but when I was in high school they came to most of our shows. We played in a few seedy places that they didn't come to, but otherwise we're mostly there.
Fast forward to my late 20s and they'd make some of them, but usually not. We were also doing mostly acoustic cover gigs at that point in small bars or breweries, so not really their jam.
Fast forward to my late 20s and they'd make some of them, but usually not. We were also doing mostly acoustic cover gigs at that point in small bars or breweries, so not really their jam.
My first show, and several subsequent shows, were in my parents' basement. If there weren't watching us, they could certainly hear us!
