Dodged a bullet on this one...

Discussion in 'Bass Humor & Gig Stories [BG]' started by GSMBass, Dec 18, 2014.

  1. GSMBass


    Oct 24, 2013
    So, there was this band, about 2 months ago, in need of a bassist. They asked me to join, but all I've heard of them was this one, grainy clip of them playing in some "club". Since I was never in a gigging cover band, I thought, what the hell, I'm in! It would be a nice experience, I thought. And this is where ridiculousness starts to unfold...

    So, they send me a set-list, which I didn't like too much, but what the hell, I'm not the one to complain about the choice of music. I just wanted to play, and that was it. The setlist was not much, about 40-50 songs total, some Lady Gaga, some Bruno Mars (yay! I like his music), and some overplayed classics, but OK... There was also one Nickelback song, but I never really hated them, more passively disliked them, so no probs. I needed to learn a select 20 songs for our first practice toghether in a week.

    So, I learn those songs, and practice them every day after college. Then, the week passes, and I get this message on Facebook (can't remember word for word, but something to this extent):
    "We canceled rehersal today, because the guitarist has to *something insignificant*. Sorry about that. Can we move it to next week, will you be available?"

    Well, that's a polite response, I thought. Sure, no problems.

    Then comes next week, and this time it's something about the rehersal space being booked. Again, apologizing. Again, next week. Well, you should have thought in advance, but who am I to judge? With my jamming band, I usually call the rehersal space (I'm sorry, I don't know the correct terminology) a day before to book time.
    Also, this time they are changing the set list. They send me another 20 songs to learn, but it's fine, I guess that happens often.

    Well... This time the drummer is sick. Sure, I get that. People get sick, there is nothing you can do about it. Also, next week. Also, apologizing. But this time, they are calling in another bassist, so they can compare us and see who fits/plays/whatever better. That's sound thinking, you never know how someone plays just by their profile picture! :D

    So here we come to my screw-up: a night before we had a scheduled practice, I went out and got drunk. In the morning, when I needed to go and meet them, I got really, really sick (don't mix drinks, kids!).
    Remember, I never said anything to them about those three canceled rehersals, and even said to them there is nothing to apologize for, s**t happens, you know? But this is their singer/band leader's response to that:
    "How could you do that? We had arranged everything, and you don't show up? You could tell us in advance!"
    Well, that was a bit odd, since I am not good at seeing future, but she has a point. It was irresponsible from me to drink before rehersal. So I apologized, said it would not happen again and all the other cliché stuff... And then, 2 DAYS LATER, I get this:
    "We are going to go with the other guy, just to inform you"

    Here, I get a little PO-ed, but I keep my calm, and say alright, good luck with your band.

    And about 2 hours ago, I see this:

    I'm a bit glad they went with the other guy, really. I think a picture speaks a tousand words, a video even more, so I'll not comment further.

    Thank You for reading this utterly boring venting post! Have a good day :)


    I thought I recognised the drummer, and I was right! It's a good friend of mine, who "replaced" the old one quite recently. A very good guy and a great drummer :)

    And, I'd like to add: I do not think the whole band sounded bad, nor am I dissing them entirely. I don't like their way of presenting those songs, but it is a thing of personal taste. Also, I approve of having a "cheat-sheet", but having it right in front of your face? :p
    Last edited: Dec 18, 2014
  2. Gaolee

    Gaolee Official leathers tester and crash dummy

    Well, gosh. I never knew having a raging hangover could be so worthwhile until now. There's not much more to say.
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  3. Hi,

    Sure, I guess they could use some more practice. But they seem to be rocking the crowd and having fun.

    I'm also sure you can find a better project. You'll have a lot more opportunities. Don't let situations like this get you down. Sometimes things just don't work out, and that's a good thing. ;)

    Thank you for your indulgence,

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  4. hrodbert696

    hrodbert696 Moderator Staff Member Gold Supporting Member

    She should set that music stand lower...
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  5. GSMBass


    Oct 24, 2013
    Of course, they are not that bad. But not my taste, really. I would comment on bassplayer's playing, but it would probably come off as me being jelaous or straight-up petty, so I won't :)

    I'll just look for other opportunities, it's not the end of the world. ;)

    Thanks for your always kind words!
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  6. lfmn16

    lfmn16 Inactive

    Sep 21, 2011
    charles town, wv
    Sounds they dodged a bullet too.
  7. GSMBass


    Oct 24, 2013
    It's not like this sort of thing happens every day... I got a little carried away that night, that's sure, but judging me for one mistake isn't really nice. Also, I admited it was a stupid idea.

    Liked your comeback, though :)
  8. Yango

    Yango Inactive

    Apr 14, 2008
    The girl can't sing, that's fo' sho!!
  9. lfmn16

    lfmn16 Inactive

    Sep 21, 2011
    charles town, wv
    You've got a good sense of humor. Good luck!
  10. Oren Hudson

    Oren Hudson

    Dec 25, 2007
    Gastonia, NC
    Yeah - No matter where the music stand is.
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  11. SirMjac28

    SirMjac28 Patiently Waiting For The Next British Invasion

    Aug 25, 2010
    The Great Midwest
    I love musicians or anyone that can get up on a stage and perform that being said if this is a serious band they need to have songs that fit their lead singers vocal range I'm not sure if she just had an off night? but her vocals were really bad and I hate saying that.
  12. Damn... That's scary.
  13. swamp_bass

    swamp_bass I love it when a groove comes together

    Nov 20, 2013
    North Cackalacky
    Agree with consensus: band's not bad, but I'd be embarrassed to play out if my vocalist sounded like that. Esp on AC/DC and Bon Jovi! :thumbsdown:

    It was definitely a deal breaker calling in sick from getting drunk the night before try-out, even if they had cancelled three times in a row. For a first impression, they probably figured you for a raging alcoholic- especially considering the prevalence in musicians. Be glad you learned your lesson when it worked out in your favor.
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  14. GSMBass


    Oct 24, 2013
    A 20-year-old raging alcoholic is a bit of an overkill :) Just kidding, I get your point.
  15. jj4001


    Dec 27, 2010
    Providence, RI
    Oh my god those lead vocals are like nails on a chalkboard.
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  16. That singer is tone-deaf, the drummer's timing is all over the place...and the lead guitarist doesn't have any idea what tempo is.
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  17. The singer's mic was too loud - I could hear her. :(

    Man, SHE shouldn't be tonedeaf and wasted before a gig! (assuming she was drunk, bc thats how badly drunk people sing usually).

    Bands are a VERY tough situation - even when you are close friends with the people, some people become a-holes when at practice and stuff doesn't sound right, and ultimately there's always going to be one person who has to put a lot of effort in to setting up gigs, and whatnot while you have other people who are either total slackers, divas, or both. Then the guys who constantly make mistakes and don't even know they're on the wrong chord (can you not hear it?!) or miss all the changes, or play out of tune - but are extremely touchy if you mention anything to them about it.

    Band drama - I'm getting too old for that stuff! :p
  18. wow, I would have told them to beat it after the second cancellation. And wow that band is bad. Glad you didn't end up stock with them
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  19. hdracer


    Feb 15, 2009
    Elk River, MN.
    Is the live music scene that bad in Serbia that crowds actually stay and get into a band with that bad of a singer?
    Around here the polite people would leave and the drunk not so polite people would be heckling and throwing things.
    We have rough crowds.
  20. SanDiegoHarry

    SanDiegoHarry Inactive Supporting Member

    Aug 11, 2008
    San Diego, CA
    musicians = flakes.
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