Dueling loyalties

[two fingers]

Admittedly, I'm a cynical old bastard but the fact that this is her first band and she felt entitled to try this would be a big red flag to me. I get the impression that all the rest of the band members are experienced pros who've been around the block a time or two (or a dozen). In a situation where she should have been laying back, concentrating on doing her job, and just keeping up, she felt like she had the right to try a power play. Sounds like a major case of "ego outstripping achievement" to me. I applaud your effort to try to make this work and I hope it does, for your sake. As for me, if a rookie tried that in a band where I was leader, he or she would be out immediately. No gender bias in that case, just way too much attitude for me to deal with. Good luck with this. I hope I am completely wrong.
Greg

Not bad points.

Here's my line of thinking.

I wanted the band to get formed and move forward. I know it has potential. In fact, I am the only guy in the band that knew all the players previously. Some of them didn't know each other.

Once we get going, and form bonds, I think all of this stuff will settle down. Worst case? She tries to pull this again. By that point, the rest of the band will be on the same page. They will likely join me in getting her to chill out. And, if she has to go, we'll keep right on going with me and keys guy on vocals.

But, honestly, I think once we get through that first show, she'll understand completely how special (on a local level anyway) this band could be.

Short version. I banking on this. The longer we're together, the more we'll all like each other and pull together. But I had to get us together first.

 

[ayseven]

Not read everything so i apologise in advance if it has been said, but did the op discuss bringing in new person with everybody else beforehand? If not, i would quit because obviously the communication is not there, and it all just gets worse.

 

[two fingers]

Not read everything so i apologise in advance if it has been said, but did the op discuss bringing in new person with everybody else beforehand? If not, i would quit because obviously the communication is not there, and it all just gets worse.

Yep. I did. It's a fun thread if you get the time to breeze through it.

It even has a happy ending!

 

[MrLenny1]

Women.
They are always an issue in bands.

 

[buldog5151bass]

Yep. I did. It's a fun thread if you get the time to breeze through it.

It even has a happy ending!

And @two fingers and his band lived happily ever after (at least until they have to discuss stage attire).

 

[Spidey2112]

And @two fingers and his band lived happily ever after (at least until they have to discuss stage attire).

You know Two is just hoping for the 70's NBA Short Short tribute to come to fruition... disco funk and b-ball at it's finest!

 

[buldog5151bass]

You know Two is just hoping for the 70's NBA Short Short tribute to come to fruition... disco funk and b-ball at it's finest!

Nah - I've seen photos of his legs. There's a reason he captain of the "no shorts on stage" brigade...

 

[Spidey2112]

Nah - I've seen photos of his legs. There's a reason he captain of the "no shorts on stage" brigade...

That's exactly what I was referring to... .

 

[two fingers]

And @two fingers and his band lived happily ever after (at least until they have to discuss stage attire).

You know Two is just hoping for the 70's NBA Short Short tribute to come to fruition... disco funk and b-ball at it's finest!

I am willing to negotiate on a lot of things. I will lock horns and hold my ground when it comes to dressing like a BAND.... not a landscaper or Wal-Mart shopper or a guy at a local baseball game.

My mama always said "Pick your battles". I pick THAT one.

 

[two fingers]

Nah - I've seen photos of his legs. There's a reason he captain of the "no shorts on stage" brigade...

In my defense, that pic was from 1986. They're much worse now.

 

[gln1955]

I am willing to negotiate on a lot of things. I will lock horns and hold my ground when it comes to dressing like a BAND.... not a landscaper or Wal-Mart shopper or a guy at a local baseball game.

My mama always said "Pick your battles". I pick THAT one.

Wal-Mart Shoppers would be a great band name.

 

[two fingers]

Wal-Mart Shoppers would be a great band name.

Do NOT click this link until you have about two hours to kill. You have been warned.
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[gln1955]

Do NOT click this link until you have about two hours to kill. You have been warned.
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Nope, not doing that. I'm skeered I'll see myself.

 

[two fingers]

Nope, not doing that. I'm skeered I'll see myself.

Unless you count yourself among the 1% oddest people in the country, you'll be fine. You ain't there. Im fact, if you're on the bubble, you still ain't there. These peoe are crazy.

It's literally pic after pic of people who should not have left the house looking like they did.

 

[gln1955]

Unless you count yourself among the 1% oddest people in the country, you'll be fine. You ain't there. Im fact, if you're on the bubble, you still ain't there. These peoe are crazy.

It's literally pic after pic of people who should not have left the house looking like they did.

Yeah, I've visited that site before.

The Walmart nearest me is in a classier suburb, so I don't see much of that kinda thing.

 

[Downunderwonder]

Your link serves up a stream of casino free spin sites.

 

[Flamingo21]

Do NOT click this link until you have about two hours to kill. You have been warned.
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And yes, you did warn me.

 

[Lowendtech]

Do NOT click this link until you have about two hours to kill. You have been warned.
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Not going there. Nope, and noper.
However, I’d click on a link to a band clip.

 

[two fingers]

Not going there. Nope, and noper.
However, I’d click on a link to a band clip.

What's hilarious is that the first gig is the 28th. And not only do we not have a web site or a clip, we don't even have a NAME!

 

[mikew31]

How about Two Singers and the Fragile Egos