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Gay Musicians

#105
celticafro said:
It's not that i place sexuality on a pedestal at all. It's just ben nice to find some music-makers that I can identifying with on all those levels. :)
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I think that may be where some of the confusion comes from. When I think of how I identify with my bandmates or other musicians, sexual preference is not part of that. I don't think this makes me open-minded or "cosmopolitan" or whatever because I honestly don't care who they tag anymore than what they had for breakfast or what their favorite color is. I don't mean "I don't care" in the "it doesn't matter to me" sense, I mean "I don't care" in the "if you start talking about any of the three things above I'll likely cut you off by saying 'I don't care' because I believe that conversation will be a waste of my time" sense.

Mike
 
#107
mike_v_s said:
I think that may be where some of the confusion comes from. When I think of how I identify with my bandmates or other musicians, sexual preference is not part of that. I don't think this makes me open-minded or "cosmopolitan" or whatever because I honestly don't care who they tag anymore than what they had for breakfast or what their favorite color is. I don't mean "I don't care" in the "it doesn't matter to me" sense, I mean "I don't care" in the "if you start talking about any of the three things above I'll likely cut you off by saying 'I don't care' because I believe that conversation will be a waste of my time" sense.

Mike
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Well that's all well and good for you. A a presumably straight guy, you can take that position since it's taken for granted that any male is hetero until it's stated otherwise. And if you're straight, it really doesn't matter, since you can just take that for granted.

But it's a little awkward for a gay guy to just assume that his friends are gay without checking. You probably wouldn't mind if I started rattling on about Cameron Diaz or Scarlett Johansson and how hot they are, but wouldn't feel quite the same if I do so about Hugh Jackman or Jake Gyllenhaal.

For guys like me, it's useful to have that conversation beforehand. ;) Especially since I'm what some might call "straight-acting," whatever that means.
 
#112
buchananbass said:
tell anyone you want honey;)
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#113
celticafro said:
Hey folks. I'm a newly registered member here. Got a question I've been thinking about for a while.

Are you openly gay?

I am, and I find it kinda lonely. I've been out for several years, ever since I went to college. But I dont' seem to meet many other gay musicians. Queer musicians I have met seem mostly to be involved with the dance scene in some fashion, either as DJs (Yes, I consider them musicians), or the punk/rock scene. Oh, and singer/songwriters, too. But I don't think I've ever met another openly gay bassist or drummer, and certainly no one who is interested in funk or jazz, as I am.

So I'm just curious to know if there's anyone else out there like me. What's your local queer music scene like? Any queerly musical communities around your area? Lookin' for some solidarity, here! :bassist:

Alex
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First of all, welcome to the forum. And no, I'm not gay, but most gay musicians I've heard are/were on the radio, i.e. Boy George, Rob Halford, Freddie Mercury, and George Michael. But most people who live the "alternative lifestyle", at least the ones I've met, are the "clubbers". I DO wonder if they'd rather do that or "karaoke" than play in an actual band...

There is an area in Dallas where the gays meet, but I've heard that the bands that play there...play there exclusively since they're "blackballed" from other clubs for playing in gay bars.

Lasly finding musicians that share common interest in music is very difficult...gay or not. To me, the music is most important! And if it's funk and jazz, then so be it.

Good luck in finding what you're looking for.
 
#114
Re-reading this thread just reminds me of how fortunate I am to play in a band with four other similarly minded people :)
 
#119
franchelB said:
First of all, welcome to the forum. And no, I'm not gay, but most gay musicians I've heard are/were on the radio, i.e. Boy George, Rob Halford, Freddie Mercury, and George Michael. But most people who live the "alternative lifestyle", at least the ones I've met, are the "clubbers". I DO wonder if they'd rather do that or "karaoke" than play in an actual band...

There is an area in Dallas where the gays meet, but I've heard that the bands that play there...play there exclusively since they're "blackballed" from other clubs for playing in gay bars.

Lasly finding musicians that share common interest in music is very difficult...gay or not. To me, the music is most important! And if it's funk and jazz, then so be it.

Good luck in finding what you're looking for.
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Ultimately it doesn't really matter to me with whom I play music. I don't care if they are hetero or otherwise, male or female, hell I'd play with a band of cats and dogs if I could. I'm just kinda scratching an itch by asking all y'alls on this board.

But holy crap, I feel bad for those blackballed bands you speak of. I wish people weren't so off-put but the queer thing. Do you know if these bands just played one gig at a gay bar and it was over?
 
#120
celticafro said:
What is the name of your band, Tbird? I might try to round up some of my crew to go out and see you sometime. :)
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Here you go:
http://www.thenastyhabits.com/

The band's website along with some youtube......."She sells Sanctuary" being the best of them.
Strange as it may seem, we rarely play a "gay" venue, straight bars love us.
 

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