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Has a relative ever embarrassed you at a gig

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toddLURR

Apr 29, 2011
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#1
I saw this band, consisting of what I would assume to be 14 year olds.. Any way nothing really special about the show, but after one of their tunes, the guitarists mother yelled from afar.."honey , please dont shake your head so much. It will tense up again, and i dont wanna rub ya for half an hour!" So has a relative ever embarrassed you at a gig?
 
#2
Wow.

The guitarist in my highschool band had his mom come to nearly every show we played. Mostly because she was bird dogging him and making sure he didn't sneak off to smoke pot. There were a few times she yelled out "That's my baby!" I think she eventually stopped coming to our shows after we were old enough to drive ourselves.
 
#4
We played a outside gig at a Casino, and a girl came up to give the singer a note to play a song (Jessies Girl If I remember right).....

Singers wife came crashing through the crowd like Mel Gibson in the HUGE fight/Clash scene in Braveheart!

All I could do is hang my head, play and try not to look.

Same Gig -
Friends sister used to be a "dancer".......was working her moves at the same gig - definitely no longer had the body for it, didn't have the coordination, balance, not a lot of teeth left, and not real pretty to look at.......(AND...Kept calling my name)
but other than that......


All I could do is hang my head, play and try not to look.
 
#5
Back in my high school days I always told my parents they weren't allowed to show up at my shows, for fear of embarrassment.

Now as a parent myself, I feel pretty bad about that. Moms just wanted to see her little boy rockin' out, who could blame her.
 
#8
I'm actually more concerned about the opposite scenario. My band keeps it pretty clean onstage with the language, etc. and doesn't do a lot to intentionally incite R-rated behavior in the crowd, but for whatever reason at a lot of our shows the crowd and especially the women tend to turn a little wild and raunchy. I was raised in a pretty conservative home so if my siblings or dad were to show up at one of those shows they would probably be "uncomfortable" if not downright offended at some of the goings on. So I'm pretty careful about which shows I invite them to, which usually means only "all-ages" events where I'm confident the band (and the crowd) will be on their best behavior.
 
#10
my first gig ever was last friday, my band as well as the others are loading our equipment and we are very busy. so heres the embarrasment, my mom ignores the "band members only" sign and wanders back stage with her camera. she keeps telling me to hold still and smile but i got equipment to move, so after geting pissed off at my lack of cooperation she just starts talking to me (while standing rite in everybodies way) she asks literally everybody around her if there in my band (there was about 6 or 7 bands at the show). anyway, somebody finally realized that i didnt have the heart to tell her to go away so they distracted her to get her out of our way. good show tho \m/
 
#11
JMac4strngr said:
having to hear about how I should be utilizing My talents for "The Lords Music".
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If I had a dollar for every time my aunt, cousin, grandma, etc. told me I should be playing in a church band, I'd be able to afford that Godlyke I have my eyes on... (is it ironic that I'm complaining about crazy religious relatives and mention Godlyke basses in the same sentence?)

My parents know how not to embarrass me so they're okay, but my grandparents can be a tad overenthusiastic AND overcritical. One time after a show, the entire band was congratulating each other on a job well done and my grandma comes up and starts cutting us up, which is weird because she's musically.... let's just say her mind can't process music all that well.
 
#13
toddLURR said:
I saw this band, consisting of what I would assume to be 14 year olds.. Any way nothing really special about the show, but after one of their tunes, the guitarists mother yelled from afar.."honey , please dont shake your head so much. It will tense up again, and i dont wanna rub ya for half an hour!" So has a relative ever embarrassed you at a gig?
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HAHA, stupid mom's. Part of me thinks she is serious, the other part thinks its payback for a supermarket fit from when the kid was 5.

My wife started a fight with me mid set once. The door man gave her a hard time about getting back in and forced her to pay ( she was already in for free, left to the bathroom ). She couldn't understand why I didn't do anything WHILE PLAYING A SET OF MUSIC. Yeah a bit embarrassing having my then drunk girlfriend try and break up with me while I was playing LOL!!
 
#14
My drummer buddys Dad was a Car Salesman and would come to our gigs and drink and flirt with the women. All the time trying to pedal cars. At one gig he had a deal all arranged to where a guy would agree to a purchase if he got him an audition with our band......as drummer......his sons job!
It was both funny and pathetic to see the drummer just lose his mind and the Dad saying over and over - "Its business, not personal".
We banned him for life and the guy bought a car anyway.......Life is strange sometimes.
 
#15
I was at a songwriter showcase once - some of these things get intense, especially when they are telling the - sometimes long winded - inspiration of the tune. this night was particularly tense w/ more than a few "SHHHHHHHH"'s.

There was an old Asian lady (certainly looked like a fish out of water in this club) got a call on her cell (ringer on) picked it up and screamed "heeeellllloh...whaaa...say again...haaa?" to a roaring objection :D

she was definitely someone's mom . . . ;)
 
#16
jlane72t said:
Back in my high school days I always told my parents they weren't allowed to show up at my shows, for fear of embarrassment.

Now as a parent myself, I feel pretty bad about that. Moms just wanted to see her little boy rockin' out, who could blame her.
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That happened to me, too. My mom only saw me play out with a band once before she died.

The interesting part about the gig was we were playing at a Juneteenth celebration (Texans know what this is) - she and my dad were the only white people in the audience.
 
#17
I was playing an outdoor show in the South, in August. It was extremely hot. I was probably about 20 yrs old. I saw this old, overweight guy in the crowd in a fanny pack with his shirt off. On 2nd glance, it was my dad!
 
#18
jaywa said:
I'm actually more concerned about the opposite scenario. My band keeps it pretty clean onstage with the language, etc. and doesn't do a lot to intentionally incite R-rated behavior in the crowd, but for whatever reason at a lot of our shows the crowd and especially the women tend to turn a little wild and raunchy. I was raised in a pretty conservative home so if my siblings or dad were to show up at one of those shows they would probably be "uncomfortable" if not downright offended at some of the goings on. So I'm pretty careful about which shows I invite them to, which usually means only "all-ages" events where I'm confident the band (and the crowd) will be on their best behavior.
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I think I need your set list.
 
#19
I was in a band headlining the last show of a very large motorcyle festival a few years ago in my hometown and my "Drunken Uncle" decided to stand right in front of the stage for a long time while we were playing yelling after every song, "That's my nephew!". Then, he was trying to hand me $5 to play a song for him. What made it more embarrasing was that he was staggering all over the place. I was in my late 40s at the time and my uncle is only 3 years older than me.
 

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