So I play in one band already, have a full-time job, am in a relationship, and freelance occasionally on the side doing writing, audio, and various tech gigs. I'm looking for additional work as a bassist; paid projects, whether sessions or a cover band or some kind of collaboration. I'm also starting lessons which I'm hoping to make at least bi-monthly if not weekly. I was asked recently by my boyfriend if I would still have time for him once all this is underway. I honestly didn't know how to answer. I said I'd make time but I feel like that's sort of a cop-out answer. How the @#$ do you MAKE time? Like I'm gonna magically add more than 24 hours to the day or something? I guess this is the flip-side to all the threads I see on here about OMG MY WIFE HATES MY BAND and MY GIRLFRIEND DUMPED ME BECAUSE I PLAY BASS or whatever (I find them kinda borderline-misogynistic at times but that's another thread for another time...). Turns out, it really does work both ways, apparently. The bottom line is that if you asked me point-blank what's more important, music or a relationship, I would say music. But at the same time, what am I gonna do, dump the guy because I don't have time to hang out with him anymore? That seems douchey, no? So it's a somewhat precarious balancing act. And I just don't know how many other dedicated musicians would actually choose music over a relationship. But if you did or didn't, and you don't mind talking about it, why/why not? Who else has had to navigate a situation like this? Hope this don't get ugly. Thanks, y'all.