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Hold me back!
- Thread starter DCErik
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If you want to do all the work of running a band for someone else, that's certainly possible (see: BAND MANAGER). There is something to be said for making efforts on other people's behalf, simply because it needs doing, and you wish to see it done. You may find, however, that your willingness expires before their expectations ... and you certainly should not expect anything in return (though you may be rewarded many times over).
A wise man once told me that we each create our own reputation. I think it is good (and is a helpful warning to others) that the ad poster is broadcasting his reputation to the world.
As an experiment, you could send him the AI rewrite with no comment and see what happens. I realize it's a disservice to your fellow musicians, but it would be interesting to see what he does with it.
Edit: You could solve the disservice problem by including a curated selection from the set list.
Edit: You could solve the disservice problem by including a curated selection from the set list.
Nope. That type of personality likely won't respond well to criticism or advice.
Don't go towards the drama.
Don't go towards the drama.
There is an old saying about doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result. (I know it's colloquially called "the definition of insanity," but I worry that said moniker is insensitive to those with real mental health issues).
It sounds to me like this CL posted is doing just that. And, as others said, when they're that stubbornly stuck like that, they likely won't be receptive to help, even if it is constructive. They're too stuck,. Can't help those who don't want to help themselves. And there are even more extreme cases where once they get a lick of help from you, they might exploit your willing helpfulness and manipulate you into fighting their battles for them (using the "no one else will help me, you're the only one who will help me" pleas).
I say let this go. Let sleeping dogs lie. I totally understand the pull to want to help and be a good samaritan. I work in special education. But I've had to come to terms with the fact that I can't save them all. Some people, I just couldn't reach.
It sounds to me like this CL posted is doing just that. And, as others said, when they're that stubbornly stuck like that, they likely won't be receptive to help, even if it is constructive. They're too stuck,. Can't help those who don't want to help themselves. And there are even more extreme cases where once they get a lick of help from you, they might exploit your willing helpfulness and manipulate you into fighting their battles for them (using the "no one else will help me, you're the only one who will help me" pleas).
I say let this go. Let sleeping dogs lie. I totally understand the pull to want to help and be a good samaritan. I work in special education. But I've had to come to terms with the fact that I can't save them all. Some people, I just couldn't reach.
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You're supposed to close this type of post with 'Muahahahaha'.
I've definitely seen worse. The first time he posted it, if I were in the market for a band, I might have checked it out. But that he would constantly repost the exact same thing, without it occurring to him that there might be a better way to advertise for bandmates, says stay away.
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