I have been in a bass/drum duo for two years now, its me on bass and vocals, and a drummer. The drummer is a foreigner, and moved to my country 11 years ago.
Our duo is doing great, have managed to get well known locally, and have got the biggest festival in town, got signed by a label and got vinyls and tapes and everything of merch after a gig in Denmark.
Our debut album drops this fall.
All of a sudden the drummer met a girl in his home country, and wants to move there because it will make him happier.
He still want to be in the band and make it work while living on the other side of the of the pond. I just dont see how.
He want us to book shows, and practice one day before, in our respective countries.
Same if we do a studio sesh.
I just dont see the motivation, and the fact that we will loose our weekly practises.
I have equipment worth way to much money, like 10k dollars worth in our rehearshal space. And since we cant do weekley practices anymore, I rather want a new drummer to work out new songs face to face, and do some actual practice.
This obviously hurt his feelings, and we are both frustrated by this now.
Its gotten to the point where he refuses me to continue without him. While Im confused how he can expect me not to continue without him of obvious reasons.
I want to grind it out weekly on my cabs and amps.
I feel its totally fair that he moves back to his country for love, no problem. But I feel its a bit unfair that I can't continue with a new drummer.
He also said moving back to his country with this woman will make him happier.
I would be more happy to still hustle this band around.
We managed to calm down for now about this.
Am I the *******?
Our duo is doing great, have managed to get well known locally, and have got the biggest festival in town, got signed by a label and got vinyls and tapes and everything of merch after a gig in Denmark.
Our debut album drops this fall.
All of a sudden the drummer met a girl in his home country, and wants to move there because it will make him happier.
He still want to be in the band and make it work while living on the other side of the of the pond. I just dont see how.
He want us to book shows, and practice one day before, in our respective countries.
Same if we do a studio sesh.
I just dont see the motivation, and the fact that we will loose our weekly practises.
I have equipment worth way to much money, like 10k dollars worth in our rehearshal space. And since we cant do weekley practices anymore, I rather want a new drummer to work out new songs face to face, and do some actual practice.
This obviously hurt his feelings, and we are both frustrated by this now.
Its gotten to the point where he refuses me to continue without him. While Im confused how he can expect me not to continue without him of obvious reasons.
I want to grind it out weekly on my cabs and amps.
I feel its totally fair that he moves back to his country for love, no problem. But I feel its a bit unfair that I can't continue with a new drummer.
He also said moving back to his country with this woman will make him happier.
I would be more happy to still hustle this band around.
We managed to calm down for now about this.
Am I the *******?