Yes, and thank doG she loves the phone.OP, are you married? I'm 54 also, and I have my wife make all my phone calls because I hate the phone so much.
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OK, So I nailed on a pair and called. Trombone is in. Left message with sax. Now I walk funny and can't sit comfortably.
congrats on scoring trombone.
next time, you might want to keep in mind that sometimes emails end up in the spam box. i've sent many emails that weren't received or weren't received till months later.
and if you're going to text, they'll have to stop what they're doing to read it anyway, so you might as well just call and say "hi. it's FunkySpoo, the bass player for the band you auditioned for the other night. do you have a minute?" if they're busy, you can always ask a good time to call or you blurt out "we want you to join the band. can you please call back when you have a minute?"
next time, you might want to keep in mind that sometimes emails end up in the spam box. i've sent many emails that weren't received or weren't received till months later.
and if you're going to text, they'll have to stop what they're doing to read it anyway, so you might as well just call and say "hi. it's FunkySpoo, the bass player for the band you auditioned for the other night. do you have a minute?" if they're busy, you can always ask a good time to call or you blurt out "we want you to join the band. can you please call back when you have a minute?"
I would expect a phone call for a job offer. Not everyone checks email daily and yours could have gotten dumped by a spam filter.
I bet you're butt dialing 911 a lot now too.
Yes!!!!!!!!
Believe it or not, phoning someone without having previously announced the intention to do so is now considered overbearing in many quarters, particularly among the under-25 crowd.
People make "dates" to talk on the phone. Cold-calling is now akin to showing up at someone's door.
A strange cultural development to be sure, and I share your "???????????" but I'm here to confirm, "!!!!!!!!"
I got frustrated reading this thread. It's been handled so I was going to let it go but then thought other people with similar questions might read it. So here you go....
At the time of the audition state your intentions, time frame and follow up and the do what you said you were going to do.
For example. You sounded great, thanks for coming. We have 2 more auditions to do and then we'll make a decision. I will call you Wednesday one way or the other. What's the best time to call you? Then confirm the phone number and follow through with what you said.
The phone is only a tool.
At the time of the audition state your intentions, time frame and follow up and the do what you said you were going to do.
For example. You sounded great, thanks for coming. We have 2 more auditions to do and then we'll make a decision. I will call you Wednesday one way or the other. What's the best time to call you? Then confirm the phone number and follow through with what you said.
The phone is only a tool.
just FYI, I'm younger than you (42), but not so much that I don't remember when people talked on the phone.
I like phone calls.
And more importantly, the younger people I play with DO use the phone!
Don't feel weird about it.
Some things are better on the phone.
And this is a good situation for it: they already know why you're calling!
I like phone calls.
And more importantly, the younger people I play with DO use the phone!
Don't feel weird about it.
Some things are better on the phone.
And this is a good situation for it: they already know why you're calling!
@buldog5151bass
Gearhead17 succinctly expresses the "new" prevailing view of phone calls in this one sentence.
Also, at least for me, I don't mind getting phone calls but as luck would have it, it seems the only time my phone rings is when I'm eating, crapping or "having relations". What are the odds
Phone etiquette has changed, used to be, before answering machines were common, that you always tried to answer the phone. So it was a bit interrupting. I figure now, it's the other end's option to answer or not, I just leave a message.
A small price to pay for success at overcoming that barrier -- well done!
Your reward/remedy:
D
Wait a week. I check my email multiple times a day, but for some people, email is a once-a-week thing. If a week passes, send another email, find a phone number, etc. Make it known that you want them in the band, but "have other candidates" if they don't respond soon (even if you don't, this pushes a sense of urgency).
buldog5151bass
Kibble, milkbones, and P Basses. And redheads.
It's about time those members in the under-25 crowd grow up and stop wearing pull-ups. If calling them ends up offending them, I don't want them in a band with me anyhow. They're likely to throw a hissy fit the 1st time someone criticizes them or the band. Better to find that out now.
Well, I didn't meant to turn this into a "damn whippersnappers" thread -- just observing where the culture is going. Ultimately, I don't think this is a matter of "those damn kids" so much as "those damn computers."
The lack of a "human interface" is becoming the rule in so many place. Try to apply for a job at, say, a university, and you will find there is no human interface available to you -- the whole application process is done through an online "portal." Much buying and selling now likewise happens online too, of course -- and it really robs a salesperson of a major weapon in their arsenal when they aren't allowed to use their voice or personality to leverage a sale.
tl;dr computers giveth, computers taketh away
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