Interesting thread, Robroy. Sounds like you are on top of everything and know just what to do. It will be interesting to see how things unfold (or unravel) over time.
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I'm in multiple bands. BL's getting testy about it. Advise, please.
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Actually, this thread was a huge help. It allowed me to both consider new ideas and dump the ones I was considering that might not be a good idea. Sometimes you really need a sounding board, and that is exactly what this thread was.
LOL
How dare you say something AT church that does not only Edify her entire perception of herself, and EVERYTHING she participates in, but did not cow-tow to her sense of self importance.
You obviously AIN'T from around here.
I kinda winked when I said "baptist friendly". She knew exactly what I was talking about.
This county went "moist" about a month before we moved here. It's on its way to dry very shortly. More and more counties are figuring out that "dry county" is synonymous with "poor county".
But my problem with is is that it flies in the face of my favorite secular quote:
"The free man owns himself. He can damage himself with either eating or drinking; he can ruin himself with gambling. If he does he is certainly a damn fool, and he might possibly be a damned soul; but if he may not, he is not a free man any more than a dog." -- GK Chesterton
Men in dry counties are not free.
Even around here, everyone cracks up at "moist". I think it's the sexual inuendo. But it means restaurants can serve beer and wine with meals.
It certainly conjures up something completely different to "exceedingly limited alcohol availability".
BTW , Gershwin only played the black keys , and had his piany rigged to shift over some .
Just sayin' .
Just sayin' .
Well sadly it would seem that THIS has become THE sop in todays music. You don't actually have to be able to play an instrument, or sing.
You just need machines to do it for you.
Sad, but I digress.
What happened to music?
And who is responsible?
Music education doesn't get credit for being academic enough , since the 1980's .
Blame music from the eighties.
Blame music from the eighties.
A *lot* of people are in more than one band in our city, and I'm assuming most other cities. Bassists and drummers in particular. Just one of those things that the BL's going to have to get over, won't be any different with the next bassist if they decide to go that way. You agreed to the other NYE gig first, that's that.
I don't know, not ALL of the 80's music was VIRTUAL.
That would be like blaming DISCO.
We got OVER that plague.
Keep in mind that the US, before the civil war, was very much like the EU. We were not called "THE" United States. We were called "THESE" United States. It was 50 "countries" tied together by a single, but constitutionally limited, federal government. The civil war changed that. It's not become very much like the old Soviet Union.
We had two gigs this weekend. After the second, we had a band meeting in the parking lot. It looks like it is imploding. That is actually a very good thing.
I've finally had my opportunity to gig all I want and I've decided that if I'm going to take the time out of my schedule it's going to have to be with like minded people of a similar skill level, lifestyle and goals. It's clear this band has morphed into something intolerable to ALL of the members. I've seen no emails or facebook posts since the meeting, but the wife of the BL quit and I eventually said that if she's out, I'm out.
It kinda reminded me of The Commitments. The crowd loved us but we were arguing during the breaks, both nights. I've never seen anything like it. And to be clear, no single person is "at fault". It's just turned into a very bad mix of characters. One side issue is that I've rubbed shoulders with some very rich and influential people, and am related to one, and have also befriended some folks at the bottom of the barrel. I really try to be, as Paul said, "all things to all men". But it's hard to work with people who come from such an utterly different background than mine and who really can't work with people not like them. I'm learning it's best to keep those relationships at arms length.
Unless I'm interested in getting some good meth, if you get my drift...
I've finally had my opportunity to gig all I want and I've decided that if I'm going to take the time out of my schedule it's going to have to be with like minded people of a similar skill level, lifestyle and goals. It's clear this band has morphed into something intolerable to ALL of the members. I've seen no emails or facebook posts since the meeting, but the wife of the BL quit and I eventually said that if she's out, I'm out.
It kinda reminded me of The Commitments. The crowd loved us but we were arguing during the breaks, both nights. I've never seen anything like it. And to be clear, no single person is "at fault". It's just turned into a very bad mix of characters. One side issue is that I've rubbed shoulders with some very rich and influential people, and am related to one, and have also befriended some folks at the bottom of the barrel. I really try to be, as Paul said, "all things to all men". But it's hard to work with people who come from such an utterly different background than mine and who really can't work with people not like them. I'm learning it's best to keep those relationships at arms length.
Unless I'm interested in getting some good meth, if you get my drift...
Reminds me of a saying we had in the airline business. If you don't like the way it is, wait until tomorrow and it will be different.
Seriously, there's not much reason to get worked up over hobby bands. Do it or don't do it but no reason to be upset about anything. "Jimmy quit, Jody got married. I should have known we'd never get far." is probably the most accurate description of being in a band.
Seriously, there's not much reason to get worked up over hobby bands. Do it or don't do it but no reason to be upset about anything. "Jimmy quit, Jody got married. I should have known we'd never get far." is probably the most accurate description of being in a band.
Heh. Got a call from the BL. We dumped the lead guitar. He was the cousin of the drummer and even he was having challenges with him. Bottom line is he was already basically trying to pretty much take over the band. All the "issues" I was having with him were in that direction and it turned out that it was the same problem the BL and his wife were having. And then there was the ol' talking to some guy, going into the mens room with him, then coming out a while later rubbing his nose and getting cotton mouth a while later...which happened last night. We were all standing on stage waiting for him so we could start our fourth set. And waiting, and waiting and waiting.
