Is my friend a bad person?

[singlemalt]

Do the dishes, vacuum, and run a load of laundry. She’ll be so freaked that another bass will be a relief.

 

[Killed_by_Death]

my motto:

 

[joel406]

Sup Bob..

 

[MakoMan]

I would say that Bob may have his priorities a bit wrong but I don't have the full picture.
Does Bob and his wife have enough savings to live without income for three months?
Is it possible that in the immediate future that the money spent on this bass might be needed for food, medical expenses or other necessities?
I'm going to sound like your wife here.... sorry, like Bob's wife.... if Bob already have a dozen or so basses were three more really necessary when unemployed in a job market that is not great?
I would say Bob is playing with fire here and may live to regret the decision.

In his defense, Bob is 61 and was on the verge of retirement anyway. Money is not really an issue and the bass was a very inexpensive Squier Mini P. He just for some reason felt a bit guilty and didn't want to explain why he was buying another bass. He also didn't want to not buy the bass.

 

[bmusic]

Sounds like my friend Mike, who just bought his second pedal in 7 days...

 

[Stewie]

I have just arranged to sell another bass. I didn't tell my wife 'til after the deal was done. I don't think she got too mad at me this time.

 

[EdwardofHuncote]

Jeannie woulda' turned 'im into a French poodle.

 

[rzamites]

my motto:
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Doesn’t it make life so much easier? :high five:

 

[39-Bassist]

Hmm so he hid money from his wife, then goes in the room to play for a (few) hrs, and buys bass and doesn't tell her about that also?
Well, first of all, it makes me wonder how much he loves the wife. (plus what does she do when he is away, hmm)
I would like to take the 5th on this one.
Also friend may not be a bad person but would you trust him? Hmm

 

[dbsfgyd1]

So my friend - I'll call him Bob - told his wife yesterday that he had to take one of his basses down to the shop to have some work done on it. Then he took an empty bass case, kissed her goodbye, loaded the case into his car's trunk and headed to the store.
At the store Bob tried out a bass he was interested in and discovered he really liked it. Bob had cash on him that he had taken from a hidden spot in his garage where he puts money from gigs and stuff he sells, so he paid for the bass, asked the store to set it up etc and told them he would pick it up the next day. Then he went home and just left the empty case in his trunk.
The next day Bob went back to the store to pick up his new bass, put it in the case, went home and told his wife he was going to go to his music room to test out the repaired bass. After a little test - just a few hours - the new bass just slipped into the collection with his other dozen or so basses.
Bob says he really didn't intend to deceive anyone... it just happened. Is this normal behavior, or is my friend a bad person?

Bad behavior? I would never NEVER try to pull something like that with my wife.

#1 is she is keenly aware I need certain tools to do my job, but having 45 screw drivers, that pretty much from a commercial stand point essentially doing the same thing for instance, is not going to pass muster. Now, if a purchase is needed to increase my marketability thereby increasing my income, that’s ok.

#2, I share the money I make playing with her. I’ve paid for numerous vacations, diners out and such, so she has a vested interest. So when the time comes to upgrade, the conversation is a lot easier.

So, is Bob a bad guy? I can’t say. But what a can say is I would never show that kind of disrespect towards my wife.

 

[MCF]

You’re Canadian? I’d expect behavior like that from us in the south, but from a Canadian?

 

[Fender_Bender]

It’s “Bob’s” money so I say he should do what he wants. But I’m single, so what the hell do I know?.

 

[MakoMan]

I have just arranged to sell another bass. I didn't tell my wife 'til after the deal was done. I don't think she got too mad at me this time.

I hear you. It's not the money.... I'm a little ashamed of the constant rotation... and in truth I think she'd rather I do what I did today than have to listen to me tell her how fantastic my most recent bass is... yet again

 

[mikewalker]

"asking for a friend"...

 

[MD]

So my friend - I'll call him Bob - told his wife yesterday that he had to take one of his basses down to the shop to have some work done on it. Then he took an empty bass case, kissed her goodbye, loaded the case into his car's trunk and headed to the store.
At the store Bob tried out a bass he was interested in and discovered he really liked it. Bob had cash on him that he had taken from a hidden spot in his garage where he puts money from gigs and stuff he sells, so he paid for the bass, asked the store to set it up etc and told them he would pick it up the next day. Then he went home and just left the empty case in his trunk.
The next day Bob went back to the store to pick up his new bass, put it in the case, went home and told his wife he was going to go to his music room to test out the repaired bass. After a little test - just a few hours - the new bass just slipped into the collection with his other dozen or so basses.
Bob says he really didn't intend to deceive anyone... it just happened. Is this normal behavior, or is my friend a bad person?

 

[Guild B301]

He is being deceitful about something that he should be able to discuss openly - buying gear with money he earned from music.
Ask yourself, if that is the kind of friend you want.
If he is deceitful with his wife, .....is he also being deceitful with you?

 

[MakoMan]

You’re Canadian? I’d expect behavior like that from us in the south, but from a Canadian?

It is out of character for us Canucks. Ordinarily this type of behavior would only be used to hide new hockey stuff.

 

[buldog5151bass]

Unless he wouldn't complain if his wife did not he same the for the same amount on a toy for her, "Bob" is an absolute schmuck. Why not just tell his wife he wanted to get a new bass? Honesty is a wonderful thing.

 

[CTBassGuy]

I've snuck a bass past my wife, but she sneaks shoes by me, so I call it even. Since she can't tell my basses from one another, and I can't tell her 13 pairs of sandals from each other (and neither of us are interested in trying to figure it out), we have a tacit agreement of momentary blindness, in my mind.

Also, a Squier mini-p is a very different situation, than, say, a Pedulla...

 

[DanAdams]

Bob's wife is right, a dozen basses is too many damn basses.
I have a dozen basses too. It's definitely too many friggin basses... but I'm not lying about it, and I'm not married to Bob's wife.