That's the phrase that pops into my head for my current band situation. After not playing for a year (COVID) the remnants of my last band (me and a guitarist) found a drummer and another guitarist to get things going again. Guitarist #1, however, has a bad habit of being very fussy and impatient about other people's musical chops/choices. He is constantly ranting to me about the inadequacies of the others in the band (makes me wonder what he says about me in my absence), even though: 1) We are not a young bunch and have a very limited pool of musicians to choose from who are willing to do interesting (atypical) original music. 2) These other guys have only practiced with us a handful of times so far. 3) We are playing original music that the others have never heard and are in the process of altering certain arrangements on the fly. To top it all, Guitarist #1 has just shared one of their long rants about the drummer accidentally with the drummer, heavily critiquing his musical acumen. So, it will be interesting to see if he shows up for tomorrow's practice. Meanwhile he has commenced to critique Guitarist #2 the same way, but so far has not shared these feelings with the target. I have flaws and limitations too, so I know for sure there is a rant about me posted somewhere. Is it that hard to understand that it takes time to create and settle on parts to original songs? I mean, one should want to try lots of different things to see what works. That's the process of reaching the final product. Especially for a freaking bunch of amateurs. In any case, it has hugely dampened my enthusiasm for creating music. I was going to share some new tunes with the band, but now I'm just going to record all the parts on my own and move on. Besides bass, I'm lead singer, lyricist and split the music writing with Guitarist #1 about 50/50. It's enough to make me long for the days of quarantine.