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#21
Thunderthumbs73 said:
My general sense of it is that my commute to a practice must not be as long as the time spent in practice, itself. That's kinda my threshold. In your case, that would be 3 hours practice, minimum, in addition to 3 hours of commute for 6 hours an evening, times two, per week, apart from any gigs that would occur.

I wouldn't want to do that. And never have. But to each their own...
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Plus, I would have been looking at that drive in traffic after a demanding 8 hours of my regular job. I may have missed a good opportunity, there will be others and it will take time.
 
#22
bluewine said:
Plus, I would have been looking at that drive in traffic after a demanding 8 hours of my regular job. I may have missed a good opportunity, there will be others and it will take time.
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And that "Time" is the key Blue. We hate to wait and waste it looking for the next gig. The problem is if we dont wait and use time wisely to find the right group you can run into problems like you had. I know with your experience there are allot of bands you could walk into now but you know what you want and expect out of your bandmates and in return will give back your all.
Needing a band that has what you need will maybe take more time but It will be worth it in the long run. Good luck.
 
#23
bluewine said:
Plus, I would have been looking at that drive in traffic after a demanding 8 hours of my regular job. I may have missed a good opportunity, there will be others and it will take time.
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I hear you.

Yes, that's another part of it. At what time you travel to/from practice has a lot to do with it too, at least for those in highly-populated areas. You might have missed a good opportunity in some way, but a 1.5 hour drive each way generally does not make a "good opportunity" in my book.
There will be other gigs.
 
#24
bluewine said:
Whether it's a rehearsal or live show, for me it's all about knowing my job and being in control. No matter who you are, once weed or drink comes into the picture, while you might think so, you are no longer in control.
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People who feel a need to be "in control" at all times are poor candidates for drugs...

It's like that old bumper sticker - "Reality is for people who can't handle drugs" ;)



bluewine said:
BTW, isn't there enough crap that can happen during a show that you truly have no control over?
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No, not really... but then, the fact that a lot of things could happen that I have no control over is one of the things I like BEST about playing live.
 
#25
aborgman said:
People who feel a need to be "in control" at all times are poor candidates for drugs...

It's like that old bumper sticker - "Reality is for people who can't handle drugs" ;)





No, not really... but then, the fact that a lot of things could happen that I have no control over is one of the things I like BEST about playing live.
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Like a band mate getting sick and cancelling the show, not getting paid. Sound System fails and there is no back up plan?

No thanks
 
#27
bluewine said:
Like a band mate getting sick and cancelling the show, not getting paid. Sound System fails and there is no back up plan?

No thanks
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Well no - those are mostly things you do have control over.

I have no control over a bandmate getting sick. I do have control over having a backup for said sick bandmate.

I have control over getting paid.

I have no control over the sound system failing. I have absolute control over the existence of a backup plan.

That being said - I may not like a particular piece of chaos - but I like the potential for chaos.
 
#29
Nice to get support from guys you have known for like 50 years.

I didn't even know these guys knew I was out looking.Guys from High School back in the late 60s

"You'll find the right fit. Patience my friend. Until then, just keep playin'!!!"

"That's too bad they were so far away. Looked like a pretty good band. I hope things are going well for you otherwise! Keep in touch!"

BTW, I have a a lt of support from TBers I don't even know.
 
#30
There's no reason why we shouldnt give you our support. Youre one of us, man. I, personally, know the feeling of not being in a band and just needing to find the right people to play with. When my last band broke up it practically made me sick to my stomach. Thoughts like 'what am I gonna do now?' and 'how am I gonna get back on stage as soon as possible?' start racing through your mind. Im one of those players who does it just because I love it, performing is my motivation, its something I need. We all want you to get your fix just as badly as we need ours.
 
#31
MatticusMania said:
There's no reason why we shouldnt give you our support. Youre one of us, man. I, personally, know the feeling of not being in a band and just needing to find the right people to play with. When my last band broke up it practically made me sick to my stomach. Thoughts like 'what am I gonna do now?' and 'how am I gonna get back on stage as soon as possible?' start racing through your mind. Im one of those players who does it just because I love it, performing is my motivation, its something I need. We all want you to get your fix just as badly as we need ours.
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I know especially when band breaks ups are shaky and some member come out on top and are still doing shows and I'm sittin out here in limbo land. There has been nothing in the ads for tha last 2 days for me to respond to.Seem like they are only looking for guys that play Metal.
 

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