Music Hating Spouse

[Womber]

This topic may very well have been discussed in past posts but would like to hear from any sympathetic brethren out there - my wife is a wonderful person in every way…except one. She absolutely has no tolerance for music and sees absolutely no purpose in listening to music let alone spending hours playing it. She has one CD, Jim Brickman, that she listens to once or twice a year as background noise at a volume that a White Tail Deer would have a hard time hearing.

She absolutely respects my passion for playing and has never ever put up any roadblocks to me playing. She just wants nothing to do with it. And if I am listening to music I can only really do it with headphones on which is not sissy’s practical.

Anybody else in this boat? How do you deal with it?

 

[4SG]

What you describe is musical anhedonia. Not a "hatred" or even a matter of preference at all. Rather it's a particular neurological condition. This article explains it in layman's terms.

 

[LBS-bass]

Different strokes for different folks, I reckon. If she isn't opposing your musical activities with open hostility, I consider that a win.

 

[FryFunk]

My wife studies classical music and hates guitar.

I mean I get it, I partially hate the sound myself.

My attitude is "Good!!!", she is way better than me, playing a music she has no interest in, gives me a bit of confidence I wouldn't have otherwise.

Also I'm an adult I can't rebel against my parents, rebelling against my wife is all I have left.

When you start writing music that pleases your wife, you've lost it in my opinion.

On top of that, there's nothing more important in a marriage than having your own thing your wife can't/won't interfere with. Nothing worst than when your wife insists on tagging along with your friends/while watching sports/while watching your shows etc.

Obviously having something in common is critical, but you need something that is your own.

 

[Womber]

What you describe is musical anhedonia. Not a "hatred" or even a matter of preference at all. Rather it's a particular neurological condition. This article explains it in layman's terms.

Wow. Great article. That describes her perfectly. Thanks for that info.

 

[jerry]

I have a friend whose wife only likes Christmas music and plays it every day of the year, I'd take the non-music loving spouse any day over that. If you wife doesn't interfere with your passion, no biggie.

 

[gln1955]

People are wired differently. Some people are moved to tears with poetry. I'm usually bored to tears.

 

[FryFunk]

I have a friend whose wife only likes Christmas music and plays it every day of the year, I'd take the non-music loving spouse any day over that. If you wife doesn't interfere with your passion, no biggie.

Yeah I hear you, when I met my wife she didn't drink, never watched tv, and only liked classical.

It was a massive turn on, when all my peers did basically the opposite.

After time I corrupted her, got her to try a drink here and there(after I had quit drinking), I got here watching tv etc.

When I started catching her watching big bang theory while she was suppose to be doing course work I knew I screwed up.

The only thing worst than a wife that doesn't like rock music, is a wife that likes bad music.

As I said above, I like having my thing.

I'd bet my life one of the reasons death metal/etc has so much popularity with middle aged guys is directly because their wives hate it.

 

[Father Gino]

As Marge Simpson said: “Music is none of my business.”

 

[Jaycat]

I may be going way out on a limb here, but I bet there may be something she's into in which you have no interest whatsoever?

 

[sonic 7]

Probably better than if she liked some kind of music that you hated. As long as you guys get along and don’t cramp each other’s style it sounds like a perfectly good relationship.

 

[5StringBlues]

What I’m sayin’… What the point I’m tryin’ to make is… that there is no point to be made. That’s all that there is. There ain’t no point to it.

 

[JeezyMcNuggles]

This topic may very well have been discussed in past posts but would like to hear from any sympathetic brethren out there - my wife is a wonderful person in every way…except one. She absolutely has no tolerance for music and sees absolutely no purpose in listening to music let alone spending hours playing it. She has one CD, Jim Brickman, that she listens to once or twice a year as background noise at a volume that a White Tail Deer would have a hard time hearing.

She absolutely respects my passion for playing and has never ever put up any roadblocks to me playing. She just wants nothing to do with it. And if I am listening to music I can only really do it with headphones on which is not sissy’s practical.

Anybody else in this boat? How do you deal with it?

Run

 

[GTx2]

Well, all I can say is…….thank God I’m not that way.

 

[whero]

Don't give up. It has taken the best part of 12 years, but I have finally turned my wife into a Radiohead fan. Anything is possible.

 

[GretschWretch]

People are wired differently. Some people are moved to tears with poetry. I'm usually bored to tears.

You mean something like this?

TERENCE, this is stupid stuff:
You eat your victuals fast enough;
There can’t be much amiss, ’tis clear,
To see the rate you drink your beer.
But oh, good Lord, the verse you make,
It gives a chap the belly-ache.
The cow, the old cow, she is dead;
It sleeps well, the horned head:
We poor lads, ’tis our turn now
To hear such tunes as killed the cow.

 

[red_rhino]

Don't give up. It has taken the best part of 12 years, but I have finally turned my wife into a Radiohead fan. Anything is possible.

She must really, really love you.

 

[Killing Floor]

As long as she’s not a gear hater…

 

[Omega Monkey]

I can't understand how anyone with more than a passing interest in music could end up with someone like that. I would last about 2 hours in a relationship like that.

 

[bobyoung53]

I have a friend whose wife only likes Christmas music and plays it every day of the year,