In forty plus years of gigging I've yet to hear an audience member comment on a music stand being onstage. Considering most gigging musicians can't read why would the appearance of being able to do that be a negative... other than to some musicians? For that matter I've only heard gripes about it online, never in real life.
The idea that the reason why a stand is onstage matters baffles me. If it's onstage... it's onstage, whether you're too lazy to memorize a song or too busy. What am I missing?
It is entirely possible to engage an audience while having a stand onstage. People act like you have to stare at it nonstop for the entire set. Besides, many without a stand stare other places, like at their fingerboard or even better, their shoes.
The musicians I perform with want to avoid trainwrecks. If reading something minimizes the chance of that...