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My first lay off
- Thread starter zon6c-f
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I'm sorry things are so rough and that you haven't had interviews. That sucks.
But. This resentment is eating you alive, man. Who are you hurting with your anger? Here's a hint: it isn't your former bosses/admin. They don't know, or don't care, or both. They've moved on. Don't continue to give them the satisfaction of living in your head. You're only hurting yourself - emotionally, mentally, physically. Trust me, I know how tough this is. I have been there.
Since you seem incapable of moving on, I'd highly recommend you find a competent therapist who can help you with this process. Getting fired or laid off can really bring up a lot of difficult emotions, and a professional may be able to help you get over the worst of it.
I’m on LI as well as other job sites
Most folks I know are former coworkers who advise me to met it go ( says those with jobs and decent incomes)
So make that be not that case. Seriously. Two easy things:
-Only put your last 10 years of experience on your resume. Surely you've had at least a title change in that time, so you can just put <Company> <New Title> <date new title started> <end date>.
-Remove any references to high school or university, unless they're more recent than the last decade. If they're older than that, they don't matter anyway regardless.
You are holding onto a lot of anger. It shows very clearly in your written words here. Hopefully that is not translating into your cover letters and communications with new companies and other people. No one wants to hire a grump -- I know I don't for the teams I interview for (I'm a hiring manager). If you are bad mouthing your old company, your old boss, or anything like that at all in real life, knock it the hell off.
GP gave me RX. I told her she’d just given me my chemical exit. She asked me to not make her regret it. So I never picked them up
Please go back to her next week and ask for a referral to a therapist who deals with grief/loss issues as well as depression!
I have med ins but now $45 for office visit plus Rx is overuled by desire to eat
Thanks for your concerns
Signing off for now
Won’t do anything desperate
Needed to vent some and I’m done dumping for now
Signing off for now
Won’t do anything desperate
Needed to vent some and I’m done dumping for now
Understood. Staying alive is good, too. Some communities have resources available for people with limited income - could be food bank (so you could put some money elsewhere), could be access to reduced-fee therapy. It's worth investigating.
buldog5151bass
Kibble, milkbones, and P Basses. And redheads.
You know my thoughts, have you spoken with counsel?
With jobs today, generally the first round of resume cuts is done by computers looking for keywords. The key is getting into the hands of an actual human being.
Are you customizing the resume for each job?
With jobs today, generally the first round of resume cuts is done by computers looking for keywords. The key is getting into the hands of an actual human being.
Are you customizing the resume for each job?
Sorry to hear about your layoff. 
What did you have planned for your retirement? Any hobbies? Trips? Projects around the house? Volunteering? Church/community activities? My advice is take a 1 week "mini retirement" to do some of the things on your list. Clear your head. Then you can come back to the job search refreshed and rejuvenated.
Don't go into debt or cash in your retirement accounts prematurely, if you can avoid it. Sell off some old bass gear if you have to. No shame in part-time or gig-economy work. Sign up with all the temp-employment agencies. It's a great time of year to work seasonal retail! Got to keep the cash flow positive until you can land your next full-time job. Check out Dave Ramsey's advice about building up your emergency fund.
Good luck to you and please take good care of yourself, physically and mentally.
What did you have planned for your retirement? Any hobbies? Trips? Projects around the house? Volunteering? Church/community activities? My advice is take a 1 week "mini retirement" to do some of the things on your list. Clear your head. Then you can come back to the job search refreshed and rejuvenated.
Don't go into debt or cash in your retirement accounts prematurely, if you can avoid it. Sell off some old bass gear if you have to. No shame in part-time or gig-economy work. Sign up with all the temp-employment agencies. It's a great time of year to work seasonal retail! Got to keep the cash flow positive until you can land your next full-time job. Check out Dave Ramsey's advice about building up your emergency fund.
Good luck to you and please take good care of yourself, physically and mentally.
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I had a friend tell me once...If they don’t want you working there...you don’t want to be there.
It made sense.
Sometimes, I’m having trouble adjusting to my retirement.
Stay busy. Sometimes it’s hard to stay busy...I’ve been doing lots of yard work, planted a garden, cleaning, scraping metal from the curb.
I’ve been painting... kitchen, daughters old room, bathrooms...and lately....closets! Exciting!
It made sense.
Sometimes, I’m having trouble adjusting to my retirement.
Stay busy. Sometimes it’s hard to stay busy...I’ve been doing lots of yard work, planted a garden, cleaning, scraping metal from the curb.
I’ve been painting... kitchen, daughters old room, bathrooms...and lately....closets! Exciting!
I applied at a national music store...when asked for a resume...I simply wrote, recently retired from xxx after 32 years.
They called me the next day. I turned down the second interview, I didn’t like the high pressure sales technique.
buldog5151bass
Kibble, milkbones, and P Basses. And redheads.
That may be part of your problem. Almost any company listing a job does the first round of resume culling by computer, to see if the key words in their job description are part of the resume. Because people can submit so easily by email, employers often get hundreds of resumes, many by people not qualified. A one size fits all resume won't cut it.
I’ve made no comments nor references to what’s happened in my resume’ or cover letters
Checked my LinkedIn and I made previous Positive statements only
Whining here to vent
Unfortunately that doesn't cut it anymore in the year 2018.
Grab a highlighter. For each job you apply to, read through the "qualifications" or "required experience." For each bullet point or keyword, take the highlighter, read through your resume, and highlight where it says you fulfill that requirement. If it's missing, add it in (truthfully). An added bonus, this will help you prepare for the interview, because those are the things they will probably ask you about.
I'm serving on my first hiring committee at work, and it's been eye-opening. We had to throw out several resumes because they did not list Microsoft Word experience (a requirement explicitly listed in the job description). Even though they probably used Word to type their nicely laid-out resumes. If they had taken a few seconds to type the four letters W-O-R-D then we would have called them in for an interview.
