The whole "Rock music is just loud; deal with it" notion is just a cop out. Sometimes a little discipline and sensitivity to one's surroundings are in order. One-dimensional players who can't or don't know how to throttle it down for situations where it is appropriate are the bane of my musical existence. Trust me—I used to be that guy, and I am grateful to the people who tolerated it when I used to do it, who had faith that I would eventually get it. However, it did cost me dearly on many an occasion; I just didn't realize it until years later.