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Ok, music retirement is over
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Congratulations Jimmy! Stress is a killer and your ability to recognize that is important. Best of luck in your new endeavors and note to my future self. Be well!Yep, you heard me. I am getting back into the game. I recently had a mild heart attack and got two stents put in, and at age 60, I am never going to put myself in a position where I have to keep a job I get so stressed over.
To that end, I am also splitting with my wife of 21 years. I still love her, but the only reason I played in that oldies band I used to play for so long is because of the nut on the expensive house she insisted we buy, and same for the cable company I’ve been working at for the past year. I don’t mind a day job but I’ll never stick with one I don’t enjoy again because I don’t have to. My wife is a great person in many ways and I will never talk bad about her, but we no longer get along as a couple and I am not going to live my golden years with that kind of pressure again or I will croak.
So don’t cry for me, Argentina. We both seem to be happier this way. And besides, I miss doing what I do best. I will never again work with an a-hole BL like the one in that oldies band, and if a woman doesn’t like my scaled back lifestyle, I will be happy to show her the door. It’s my life and I’ll do what I want, as Eric Burdon once sang.
Yay for me!
Very sorry about your marriage, but it sounds like you’re at peace there.
As for getting back into music - I figured that would have happened even sooner for you if not for the pandemic. Players gotta play.
As for getting back into music - I figured that would have happened even sooner for you if not for the pandemic. Players gotta play.
agreed: yay for you!Yep, you heard me. I am getting back into the game. I recently had a mild heart attack and got two stents put in, and at age 60, I am never going to put myself in a position where I have to keep a job I get so stressed over. To that end, I am also splitting with my wife of 21 years. I still love her, but the only reason I played in that oldies band I used to play for so long is because of the nut on the expensive house she insisted we buy, and same for the cable company I’ve been working at for the past year. I don’t mind a day job but I’ll never stick with one I don’t enjoy again because I don’t have to. My wife is a great person in many ways and I will never talk bad about her, but we no longer get along as a couple and I am not going to live my golden years with that kind of pressure again or I will croak. So don’t cry for me, Argentina
here's to having more peace and more smiles, salud!
Some hard life choices there my man - good on you for seeing the need. Here's to your newer, stress reduced life!
66 heading into 67 early next year with one near fatal stroke behind me back in 2014.
Still going strong. And still with the same woman I’ve been exclusively with since 1970 when we were teens. And we’re both really happy with that.
We all walk separate paths with different destinations in mind. But the thing that really matters is, no matter which path you take, you take your path.
Your path seems a little more complicated than mine. But I think you’re up to the challenge.
Good luck Jim!
Still going strong. And still with the same woman I’ve been exclusively with since 1970 when we were teens. And we’re both really happy with that.
We all walk separate paths with different destinations in mind. But the thing that really matters is, no matter which path you take, you take your path.
Your path seems a little more complicated than mine. But I think you’re up to the challenge.
Good luck Jim!
Takes a lot of self-introspection and courage to make that call, I wish all the best for you. Sounds like the right call. I hope it stays amicable.
A truly inspiring post. Very well done Jimmy and all the best of luck in everything going forwards.
I will always applaud someone that stands their ground and lives the life they want to live. Good on you and may good luck and fortune smile upon you!
That's a lot of drastic change. I get that a heart attack can change your perspective on life and mortality, but you might want to address what you see as wrong with your life one variable at a time, rather than all at once. Baby, bathwater, and all that.Yep, you heard me. I am getting back into the game. I recently had a mild heart attack and got two stents put in, and at age 60, I am never going to put myself in a position where I have to keep a job I get so stressed over.
To that end, I am also splitting with my wife of 21 years. I still love her, but the only reason I played in that oldies band I used to play for so long is because of the nut on the expensive house she insisted we buy, and same for the cable company I’ve been working at for the past year. I don’t mind a day job but I’ll never stick with one I don’t enjoy again because I don’t have to. My wife is a great person in many ways and I will never talk bad about her, but we no longer get along as a couple and I am not going to live my golden years with that kind of pressure again or I will croak.
So don’t cry for me, Argentina
Yay for me!
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Some tough life decisions Jimmy, but sometimes that's what you only have.
My wife of 33 years and I relocated from the NJ shore to the west coast here in Florida the beginning of the year. Best thing ever. I'm lucky and I know it. She has always been supportive of my work and my passions. Never needed to keep up with the Joneses. We have all we want and made the conscious decision to simplify our lives so that we can enjoy life more, however many more trips around the sun we may have. One never knows.
Glad you're doing well bass brother.
Carpe diem!
My wife of 33 years and I relocated from the NJ shore to the west coast here in Florida the beginning of the year. Best thing ever. I'm lucky and I know it. She has always been supportive of my work and my passions. Never needed to keep up with the Joneses. We have all we want and made the conscious decision to simplify our lives so that we can enjoy life more, however many more trips around the sun we may have. One never knows.
Glad you're doing well bass brother.
Carpe diem!
Life is too short and I admire and respect the honesty and integrity to follow your heart and head doing it in a way that makes your life less stressed and moving forward in a positive direction. Time to breathe, smile and keep going forward. The only suggestion I'd make is to buy a new bass when you're ready.
Yep, you heard me. I am getting back into the game. I recently had a mild heart attack and got two stents put in, and at age 60, I am never going to put myself in a position where I have to keep a job I get so stressed over.
To that end, I am also splitting with my wife of 21 years. I still love her, but the only reason I played in that oldies band I used to play for so long is because of the nut on the expensive house she insisted we buy, and same for the cable company I’ve been working at for the past year. I don’t mind a day job but I’ll never stick with one I don’t enjoy again because I don’t have to. My wife is a great person in many ways and I will never talk bad about her, but we no longer get along as a couple and I am not going to live my golden years with that kind of pressure again or I will croak.
So don’t cry for me, Argentina
Yay for me!
Welcome back to the fray!
Also, welcome to cardio rehab. 15 year member here. Stay on the meds, get some exercise once in a while, and stay out of KFC. A glass of red wine won’t hurt either if you can get it down.
Best wishes.
Wishing you the best!
When I was once asked how did it feel to get divorced at 50, I said it was like getting let out of a bad contract.
When I was once asked how did it feel to get divorced at 50, I said it was like getting let out of a bad contract.
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Congrats! Welcome to the "I don't have to ask my wife club"!!Yep, you heard me. I am getting back into the game. I recently had a mild heart attack and got two stents put in, and at age 60, I am never going to put myself in a position where I have to keep a job I get so stressed over.
To that end, I am also splitting with my wife of 21 years. I still love her, but the only reason I played in that oldies band I used to play for so long is because of the nut on the expensive house she insisted we buy, and same for the cable company I’ve been working at for the past year. I don’t mind a day job but I’ll never stick with one I don’t enjoy again because I don’t have to. My wife is a great person in many ways and I will never talk bad about her, but we no longer get along as a couple and I am not going to live my golden years with that kind of pressure again or I will croak.
So don’t cry for me, Argentina
Yay for me!
