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Potential date wants to be bullied

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Maaaaaaan. This is a weird one. I've been talking to someone online, things are going well. We get to the point where we're talking about interests, and they say they want to be bullied.

And like.

I don't know what that means. So I ask them to explain it, and they describe old fashioned movie and TV bullying. Slapping, headlocks, noogies, rope burns, loogies, wedgies. Even swirlies.

And just like.

shaging what? They said they think it's funny. And so I think maybe they mean, like, talking about it? Imagining it and describing it? Maybe that's funny. But no, they want someone to actually stick their head in a toilet.

Because it's fun.

The next thing that happened was they sent me a video of the kind of thing they wanted to do, and it was the most uncomfortable thing I've ever watched that was supposed to be "funny." This thing just seemed mean in a really personal way. I laughed at a few moments but it was that weird, uncomfortable laughter. I've had that happen around other people, but never sitting alone in a room by my self. It was that awkward to watch.

I don't know man. People are really weird. Maybe they're trolling me to see what I say? I hope it's that.

Maybe someone here can explain what in the actual hell this means.

The 51st shade of grey, perhaps?
 
A "bully kink" (or "enemies to lovers" dynamic in fiction) is a sexual preference where one person enjoys being playfully degraded, teased, or dominated by another.
People who like this kink often find that it helps them process stress, feel intense attention, or explore safe dominance-and-submission dynamics. The "bully" acts mean on purpose, but both people know it is fake.

Why People Like It
  • It feels like intense attention: Someone is focusing completely on you.
  • Releasing control: You do not have to make decisions; the "bully" takes charge.
  • Safe boundaries: It allows people to experience aggressive energy in a controlled, safe way.

I mean, some people get turned on by nasty feet, wearing diapers, getting kicked in the ****.

I’ve met “nice” people with a nasty foot fetish. No thanks🤢
 
A big part of human communication relies on visual and aural cues. Take those out of the equation and there’s bound to be some fumbling around in the dark (not the good kind). I understand why a lot of people do the online dating thing but I find it to be a thoroughly bizarre way to try to find a mate.
 
Maaaaaaan. This is a weird one. I've been talking to someone online, things are going well. We get to the point where we're talking about interests, and they say they want to be bullied.

And like.

I don't know what that means. So I ask them to explain it, and they describe old fashioned movie and TV bullying. Slapping, headlocks, noogies, rope burns, loogies, wedgies. Even swirlies.

And just like.

shaging what? They said they think it's funny. And so I think maybe they mean, like, talking about it? Imagining it and describing it? Maybe that's funny. But no, they want someone to actually stick their head in a toilet.

Because it's fun.

The next thing that happened was they sent me a video of the kind of thing they wanted to do, and it was the most uncomfortable thing I've ever watched that was supposed to be "funny." This thing just seemed mean in a really personal way. I laughed at a few moments but it was that weird, uncomfortable laughter. I've had that happen around other people, but never sitting alone in a room by my self. It was that awkward to watch.

I don't know man. People are really weird. Maybe they're trolling me to see what I say? I hope it's that.

Maybe someone here can explain what in the actual hell this means.
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