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Second date
- Thread starter klejst
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letting you sleep in her bed and commenting that it isn't the same without you in it comes to mind
Gaolee
Official leathers tester and crash dummy
Maybe she's actually a guy and is nervous about what will happen, since you think he's a girl. Or something like that.
Maybe she's actually a guy and is nervous about what will happen, since you think he's a girl. Or something like that.
Genius ! Why didn't I think of that ?
OP, the dry humping comes to mind too. You make your move, and if she says no, respect that. But at this point your window of opportunity is closing fast. How old are you anyway ? Here's a hint, if a woman let's you get to 3rd base, you have a green light for the entire experience. This has always been my rule of thumb and it's never failed me. I'm in my 50s, I speak from experience. And remember, when I was a kid, chicks weren't nearly as free as they are now. There was no such thing as booty calls or friends with benefits.
I totally feel like the OP should have made a new thread. I had no idea he had gotten past the 2nd date.
This may be directed at me since I'm a veritable fountain of bad advice.
While I'm at it, I'll advise all here to use guitar cabs with their bass amps. Especially in loud situations with a lot of bass.
Invite her over to watch some "skin flicks" and have a hot dog platter set for dinner. Also have a big box of wine. That will put things in order.
+1. Be respectful and make your move. If she doesn't reciprocate, thank her for her time, just be her friend, yada yada, but move on. Women are like buses, another one comes along every 15 minutes.
I know at this point I could almost combine all this into a small novel. Date wise we're on 7-8 and time wise a month.
Once she gets back Sunday, shes done with a big part of what has been eating at her and a bunch of her time for the last couple weeks. So starting next week without thinking or planning it too much and just feel it out but I'll start pushing the envelope more and walking closer to the line. Take the initiative.
Once she gets back Sunday, shes done with a big part of what has been eating at her and a bunch of her time for the last couple weeks. So starting next week without thinking or planning it too much and just feel it out but I'll start pushing the envelope more and walking closer to the line. Take the initiative.
Gaolee
Official leathers tester and crash dummy
Gaolee
Official leathers tester and crash dummy
Excellent advice. The guitar cabs should use radically different speakers, too, all with completely different characteristics. That way you don't miss out on anything. He's a bass player, as well as a guy who is going out on dates, so we can give him multiple rounds of advice that will make him sound really lousy at the same time our advice gets him killed! Pure genius!
Gaolee
Official leathers tester and crash dummy
If it doesn't work out, just keep feeding us trolls and you can have all the information you need to write an advice column for the Onion.
Excellent advice. The guitar cabs should use radically different speakers, too, all with completely different characteristics. That way you don't miss out on anything. He's a bass player, as well as a guy who is going out on dates, so we can give him multiple rounds of advice that will make him sound really lousy at the same time our advice gets him killed! Pure genius!
Doesn't this belong in the 'let's spread misinformation' thread?
I am not meaning to troll as it seems some people on here actually have an interest in my thread and how things are going. If I am then sorry.
To sum it up more recently I have not seen her since last Friday and the last time I heard anything back from here was Monday saying thanks for the gift bag but no response after that and then at around 11:30 yesterday we wished me Happy Birthday and again that was it with no other response. In reality we are in an age of text'ng to make things more convenient right? I fail to understand why sometimes 5-10 seconds cannot be taken to respond to someone or even if it takes longer just a response in general would be nice.
I met up with one of my really good friends last night for a few drinks for my B-day and told him about my situation. My friend told me it sounds like to him that I may just be an option to her at this point...sure she is busy but that cannot be an excuse all the time and if she really cared anymore enough she would reach out a little more despite being busy and also for example knew I wanted to see her again before she left for Cali yesterday but went up South Dakota over last weekend and got drunk with her friends and did not get back until late Sunday. During the week she never reached out either.
I am going to leave her alone during this week because she's in Cali, but when she gets back see if she cares enough to reach out to me and if not by middle of next week I may try to plan something that weekend we can get together and then just bring some things to the table with her. My friend tells me it about the time to put some of the cards on the table too and let her know my true intentions with her and that I like (not love, too early) her. That way she either feels the same or kicks rocks. Gotta do it in a but of a non forceful but playful way. Should be fun...
Don't get me wrong I appreciate a fun good time too, but something tells me there is more to her, I am starting to see perhaps the "I still just want to go out and party" type of attitude. I am 28 and she is 26 for those who are interested. I just know this is a two way street not one.
To sum it up more recently I have not seen her since last Friday and the last time I heard anything back from here was Monday saying thanks for the gift bag but no response after that and then at around 11:30 yesterday we wished me Happy Birthday and again that was it with no other response. In reality we are in an age of text'ng to make things more convenient right? I fail to understand why sometimes 5-10 seconds cannot be taken to respond to someone or even if it takes longer just a response in general would be nice.
I met up with one of my really good friends last night for a few drinks for my B-day and told him about my situation. My friend told me it sounds like to him that I may just be an option to her at this point...sure she is busy but that cannot be an excuse all the time and if she really cared anymore enough she would reach out a little more despite being busy and also for example knew I wanted to see her again before she left for Cali yesterday but went up South Dakota over last weekend and got drunk with her friends and did not get back until late Sunday. During the week she never reached out either.
I am going to leave her alone during this week because she's in Cali, but when she gets back see if she cares enough to reach out to me and if not by middle of next week I may try to plan something that weekend we can get together and then just bring some things to the table with her. My friend tells me it about the time to put some of the cards on the table too and let her know my true intentions with her and that I like (not love, too early) her. That way she either feels the same or kicks rocks. Gotta do it in a but of a non forceful but playful way. Should be fun...
Don't get me wrong I appreciate a fun good time too, but something tells me there is more to her, I am starting to see perhaps the "I still just want to go out and party" type of attitude. I am 28 and she is 26 for those who are interested. I just know this is a two way street not one.
