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He should probably ask her how many kids she wants......oh, and start talking about religion and politics.....that oughtta fix this.
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Second date
- Thread starter klejst
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He should probably ask her how many kids she wants......oh, and start talking about religion and politics.....that oughtta fix this.
Sounds like it's going along well. Play it cool. It looks promising for you. You've got a good plan, and yes, either do always have condoms with you or if you don't, just wait til another time.
Also take her out for barbequed ribs. Never trust a girl that won't eat ribs on a date, especially the first or first few dates.....those chicks are no good.
Another good way to get ready for your first sexual encounter with her is to ask her how many guys she's been with, how big was the biggest ones schlong, and how many times she's orgasmed in a single session. You need to know where the goalposts are and what it's going to take to seal the deal. It's a little bit like watching video of the other team when strategizing a football game.
Another good way to get ready for your first sexual encounter with her is to ask her how many guys she's been with, how big was the biggest ones schlong, and how many times she's orgasmed in a single session. You need to know where the goalposts are and what it's going to take to seal the deal. It's a little bit like watching video of the other team when strategizing a football game.
Gaolee
Official leathers tester and crash dummy
You are really trying to get this guy killed, aren't you!
The OP started off innocently enough. The way the thread has developed, I now feel like I'm eavesdropping on a couple high school students.
Maybe time for me to check out the Luthier's Corner for awhile.
Maybe time for me to check out the Luthier's Corner for awhile.
Isn't this your second date? I wouldn't advise talking about sex at this early stage of the game. If you want to make a move that's cool, but don't talk it up. Play it cool. You don't want to creep her out or turn her off.
Gaolee
Official leathers tester and crash dummy
The man is on talkbass. He's a bass player. Sex? Only if the lead guitarist is already off somewhere with a groupie. On the other hand, if he really wants to get her going, he knows how to shake the floor. So, there you go. Unless we succeed in getting him killed first.
Yeah lack of update on my part, been busy with some other stuff as well. Things have been going very well. The comedy club last weekend was fun and we both enjoyed it. Afterwards we ended up meeting up with a friend of her's and her boyfriend for a couple drinks, good people. She kept holding my hand under the table and stuff but I was comfortable. We got a couple rounds of shots and both girls got a little tipsy but it was overall fun. I ended up staying the night with her again that night but nothing happened and I did not really force or push either. Like I said as crazy as it sounds I am restraining myself for the right time.
She came over Tuesday and I grilled out and made dinner for us. We are meeting up tonight for a few drinks, I am meeting another of her friends tonight and her friend even wanted to meet me and asked if I had any single friends. So I invited one of my friends to tag along. I'm not really trying to hook my friend up but if them two click or wanna chat that is their thing.
She has a pretty busy week coming up with school, which is really eating a lot of her time and is stressful for her but I remain encouraging and supportive. She is really close to being done and is also leaving next Thursday for California for a school project/competition until Sunday so I am hoping her and I can have some us time after drinks since I have a feeling I may not see her again until after she gets back from Cali next weekend.
The only thing is at this point after six solid dates (many which we spend a good majority of the day together or doing multiple things on the dates and of course since I have stayed with her and slept in her bed with her) and were coming up on a month...I am wondering if I could test the water tonight and casually introduce her to my friend as my girlfriend?
She came over Tuesday and I grilled out and made dinner for us. We are meeting up tonight for a few drinks, I am meeting another of her friends tonight and her friend even wanted to meet me and asked if I had any single friends. So I invited one of my friends to tag along. I'm not really trying to hook my friend up but if them two click or wanna chat that is their thing.
She has a pretty busy week coming up with school, which is really eating a lot of her time and is stressful for her but I remain encouraging and supportive. She is really close to being done and is also leaving next Thursday for California for a school project/competition until Sunday so I am hoping her and I can have some us time after drinks since I have a feeling I may not see her again until after she gets back from Cali next weekend.
The only thing is at this point after six solid dates (many which we spend a good majority of the day together or doing multiple things on the dates and of course since I have stayed with her and slept in her bed with her) and were coming up on a month...I am wondering if I could test the water tonight and casually introduce her to my friend as my girlfriend?
Gaolee
Official leathers tester and crash dummy
Well, gosh, our brilliant advice hasn't got you killed or cut off! You must know what you are doing. So, here's the next round of really bad advice. Take out a billboard along the way to wherever it is you are going and have a big sign made that announces her as your girlfriend. It's a subtle thing, but you have to be subtle or she might be offended, from what you say.
Maybe now is the time for airplane tickets and a Dirty Lixx show.
Maybe now is the time for airplane tickets and a Dirty Lixx show.
Well Friday night was fun however afterwards it kind of left a little to think about. My friend and I showed up early and she text'ed me she was still waiting on her friend, but no big deal we already got a table and ordered some drinks. The girls show up and I go get them at the door and escort them to the table. I introduce them to my friend and then I meet her friend and we sit down. We make conversations with each other while we have a few drinks and I think things are going good. I did not introduce her as my girl friend, some reason I hesitated and did not think it was the right time and I am glad I didn't as I'll say why later.
Our friends are chatting and I am chatting with her friend and her and we are just chilling. Then the girls start talking amongst themselves a lot more which I suppose is normal for girls. So then most times I found myself either watching TV or chatting with my friend. I tried to engage myself and my friend into their convos and also tried to incorporate some humor but fell short a lot of the times. My girl knows I am sarcastic so then it made me wonder how much she actually told her friend about me. My girl told me she was on a schedule to be home by 10pm that night...which honestly if I knew that from the get go I would of just told her worry about school now and we can do this some other time because she actually kept looking at her watch through the night. She is leaving Wednesday for California with her trial team until Sunday to compete in some competition. My birthday is Wednesday but she'll be gone, she mentioned she'll drink a few in Cali for my honor...ok thanks. I've supported and been understanding of her schooling none the less. The thing about Friday is that I was reluctant against meeting friend and more-less her friend asking me if I had single friends and to bring one out so it was basically her friends Idea. When we were leaving her and I simply hugged...no kiss or anything like before which perhaps she did not want to do in front of our friends but I would of not minded it but again made me wonder if to her and her friends if I'm just a casual.
In hearing her and her friend chat it seemed like there is more to her, in college I get having fun, I know I did, but it also made me wonder if she has even gotten out of that "wild child" stage or is even looking for anything serious or if I am just a casual thing or worse yet even being used. We have known each other for a month now and I am not trying to rush anything, but I have also dedicated a lot of money and time into this already to find out whenever it was just a "fling." She went back home yesterday but I mentioned if she had time I would love to see her again before she leaves Wednesday, she told me she was going out with her friends last night and did not know how early she was going to make it back as she has to work on her project sometime today too.
Part of me simply just wants to say fine...let me know when you have time for me but it is frustrating because now I feel like I am competing with a bunch of factors I really cannot control. That night her and her friend were talking about all kinds of plans they wanted to do this Summer and a lot of it did not seem like a problem to her.
Whether we hang out or not I have though about making her a little "gift bag" with some snacks, few diet cokes and maybe a small bottle of Captain Morgan and a note saying "Best of luck in Cali, see ya when you get back" and put it on her doorstep or inside her screen door either tomorrow night or Tuesday night when she is not home and is at class. My friend told me not to think so much into it, however I cannot help but wonder a little at this point.
Our friends are chatting and I am chatting with her friend and her and we are just chilling. Then the girls start talking amongst themselves a lot more which I suppose is normal for girls. So then most times I found myself either watching TV or chatting with my friend. I tried to engage myself and my friend into their convos and also tried to incorporate some humor but fell short a lot of the times. My girl knows I am sarcastic so then it made me wonder how much she actually told her friend about me. My girl told me she was on a schedule to be home by 10pm that night...which honestly if I knew that from the get go I would of just told her worry about school now and we can do this some other time because she actually kept looking at her watch through the night. She is leaving Wednesday for California with her trial team until Sunday to compete in some competition. My birthday is Wednesday but she'll be gone, she mentioned she'll drink a few in Cali for my honor...ok thanks. I've supported and been understanding of her schooling none the less. The thing about Friday is that I was reluctant against meeting friend and more-less her friend asking me if I had single friends and to bring one out so it was basically her friends Idea. When we were leaving her and I simply hugged...no kiss or anything like before which perhaps she did not want to do in front of our friends but I would of not minded it but again made me wonder if to her and her friends if I'm just a casual.
In hearing her and her friend chat it seemed like there is more to her, in college I get having fun, I know I did, but it also made me wonder if she has even gotten out of that "wild child" stage or is even looking for anything serious or if I am just a casual thing or worse yet even being used. We have known each other for a month now and I am not trying to rush anything, but I have also dedicated a lot of money and time into this already to find out whenever it was just a "fling." She went back home yesterday but I mentioned if she had time I would love to see her again before she leaves Wednesday, she told me she was going out with her friends last night and did not know how early she was going to make it back as she has to work on her project sometime today too.
Part of me simply just wants to say fine...let me know when you have time for me but it is frustrating because now I feel like I am competing with a bunch of factors I really cannot control. That night her and her friend were talking about all kinds of plans they wanted to do this Summer and a lot of it did not seem like a problem to her.
Whether we hang out or not I have though about making her a little "gift bag" with some snacks, few diet cokes and maybe a small bottle of Captain Morgan and a note saying "Best of luck in Cali, see ya when you get back" and put it on her doorstep or inside her screen door either tomorrow night or Tuesday night when she is not home and is at class. My friend told me not to think so much into it, however I cannot help but wonder a little at this point.
Sounds like you may be trying just a little too hard. If you are getting a strange vibe, I'd stay away from the gift bag idea for now and just left her do what she needs to. Back up just a little. Give her time to miss you and if she truly digs you, she'll be back.
I recommend a rock climbing gym. This is a test to see if she's got any athleticism and an interest in keeping herself in shape. Otherwise, once the kids start popping . . .
