Woa, that would have not ended well if that was my bass... The only thing close to this I've experienced was a guitar player (who wasnt playing but running the open mic) came on "stage" during our little 3 song set and just turn my amp down. You can ask, but dont just start turning knobs while im playing. Never going back to that one.
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Small Jam - Assorted Egos: What I learned last night.
- Thread starter DianaBass
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there would of been an imprint of that guys face on the backside of my bass
i agree with finding the like minded "humble" guys who are totally supportive and have a good handle on being classy...There are many schmucks in this business.
i agree with finding the like minded "humble" guys who are totally supportive and have a good handle on being classy...There are many schmucks in this business.
The important thing to remember at those times is He(or She) has a problem, and let it be their problem. No need to join them in their problem.
I once accidentally spilled some beer on a guy - walking through a crowded party. And his response was to turn and slug me in the face. Didn’t say anything, just hit me. The crowd noticed, and watched as I just looked at him, perplexed. I’m a lot bigger than he was, and the hosts were anticipating that I’d destroy the guy. After an awkward stare for a bit. I walked away.
Point is, being the bigger person (not size wise) gets you much further than stooping to an idiot’s level.
I once accidentally spilled some beer on a guy - walking through a crowded party. And his response was to turn and slug me in the face. Didn’t say anything, just hit me. The crowd noticed, and watched as I just looked at him, perplexed. I’m a lot bigger than he was, and the hosts were anticipating that I’d destroy the guy. After an awkward stare for a bit. I walked away.
Point is, being the bigger person (not size wise) gets you much further than stooping to an idiot’s level.
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Jams are always a crap shoot. Sometimes magic happens. Sometimes you just wish you'd stayed home. Still, though, they're good experience, especially if you are inexperienced.
The more talented a person is, the nicer they are.
I've often found that the most professionally-experienced musicians are the ones most generous and sharing or caring. I've played with a few platinum album artists, that were hired for private parties, who were just the loveliest people you'd ever meet.
Some of the worst were just bottom-feeder legends in their own lunchtimes that had a bit of a local following, and nothing more, no success, no real unique talent, and nothing that would ever raise the interest of an A&R person or recruiter. Coincidentally, those bottom-feeder followers were just as bad as people as the person they were pumping up.
It's true - it really does take a certain kind of person to make it as a hit-maker. They have to hustle, and they have to be humble.
Some of the worst were just bottom-feeder legends in their own lunchtimes that had a bit of a local following, and nothing more, no success, no real unique talent, and nothing that would ever raise the interest of an A&R person or recruiter. Coincidentally, those bottom-feeder followers were just as bad as people as the person they were pumping up.
It's true - it really does take a certain kind of person to make it as a hit-maker. They have to hustle, and they have to be humble.
That was crazy! If someone grabbed my bass like that I'd struggle not to want to make them eat it
You're absolutely right. When you look around, the busiest players that everybody calls are not necessarily the absolutely best (they're good, of course), but people who are decent human beings who are punctual, easy to be around and don't give you drama. Tantrum boy? Ignore their kind, life's too short.
That jerk was way out of line (you know this). I am glad the others were supportive.
Good on you for keeping your cool when the jerk grabbed your bass neck. Yeesh, I can't believe people like that actually exist....but I'm certain they do. Nice to hear it had a happy ending, here's to hoping all of the sessions end happy for you 
About people who are humble, I've found that once someone achieves a certain level, whether it be ability, famousness, or some other measure of success, they tend to split into two camps. There are those who have enough confidence to be generous of spirit toward those who are following behind them, and there are those who are insecure and wind up waving whatever it is they think makes them special around like a banner.
It's the insecurity that holds them back. Those who are truly good and realize they've paid their dues don't need to feel insecure. They might have other problems, but that won't be one of them.
It's the insecurity that holds them back. Those who are truly good and realize they've paid their dues don't need to feel insecure. They might have other problems, but that won't be one of them.
Jam nights are where you mostly see the biggest fish in that small pond. Great for observation more than being part of......... The eyes are as good at teaching as the ears.
A jam is supposed to be a make new friends, fun learning experience. If some A-hole grabbed my bass neck I would wrap my hands around his neck. I'm a pretty laid-back person but I don't have much for a "I know it all" person. Blow them off it's always one. Hang with the fun guys/gals.
But then she’d be lowering herself to that assclown’s level.
Yep. Embarrass him with kindness. Works every time.
I have always understood that there is an unwritten rule when playing. Never, ever grab another musicians instrument without permission, especially if he/she is playing it.
Never! It is a very good way to have one's head handed to them in pieces.
Never! It is a very good way to have one's head handed to them in pieces.
Probably no hope for that dude (the neck grabber) but one of these days he's probably going to grab the wrong person's instrument neck, and:
