The reference is:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sallen_Key_filter
But now I see what you are saying. The Q is indeed not an index of the rejection slope. The only thing being controlled is the shape of the response near the corner frequency. But when you get down in the cutoff region, it is 12 dB/oct no matter what, like you say.
By the way, I have gotten ready to try building one of these. Here is what happened. I had gotten complacent with using my magnetic upright bass pickup, and decided to try out my piezo with a new DIY speaker. The speaker went from being well behaved with the magnetic, to the cone visibly jumping out at me on low notes. Same volume level. I am assuming that the offending stuff is the subharmonic thump below 40 Hz, and my amp is only 3 dB down at 20 Hz. I think that a HPF tuned to around 40 or 50 Hz will help me control the cone without any other adverse effect.
Right now I am thinking of something like the attached circuit. It got a little bit elaborate, but the little parts are cheap compared to the pots, jacks, case, etc.