So My Girlfriend's Becoming a Vegetarian...

[EricF]

If you can work out a way that both of you can be satisfied with the food situation, and be respectful of each other, and it can work. If she is demanding that you not eat meat, just because it's the way she chooses to live, then you may be in for some real problems. Trying to force her to continue eating meat is as disrespectful as her trying to force you to be a vegetarian.

Maybe she'll be appeased if you make the commitment to only eating animals that don't eat meat - grass-fed cattle, for example.

 

[RS]

My issue is more, now I have to work to include meat in meals where previously meat was guaranteed. By her becoming a vegetarian, I am forced to become a meat advocate to uphold my status quo.

I'll probably get my man card pulled for this, but honestly, relationship involve compromise and "drift" IMO. Each partner takes on some of the aspects of the other. It's inevitable when you live with someone that you won't be influenced by them. I don't currently want to be the vegetarian guy, but living with a vegetarian will, at the least, force me to work harder to keep up my carnivorous ways.

I don't understand this first bit. Why do you need to become a meat advocate? What does that even mean? The cultural norm is to eat meat 2-3 times a day in the US. The meat industry is doing fine, in large parts to their government subsidies and loose regulations. And how does anyone force you to do anything?

Does she do all the cooking? Is the problem that you now have to cook if you want meat dishes?

I do agree with you relationships requiring compromise and influencing each other. So what? What is so onerous about eating less or no meat? If you love this person, I assume she is a cool/good person and you'd wouldn't object to having her good qualities rub off on you. It almost sounds like you can barely stand her, and this will be the last straw which then points to addressing the problems in your relationship or finding someone more compatible with yourself.

 

[Unrepresented]

I don't understand this first bit. Why do you need to become a meat advocate? What does that even mean? The cultural norm is to eat meat 2-3 times a day in the US. The meat industry is doing fine, in large parts to their government subsidies and loose regulations. And how does anyone force you to do anything?

Basically I'm just going to have to take extra measures to maintain "meat normalcy."

My dry sense of humor probably makes me sound like I'm a jerk, but really we're happy, I just want to maintain my meatiness, and figure that tB's got a large enough population that other people have gone through similar carno/herbo relationships and can offer up some insight.

I do agree with you relationships requiring compromise and influencing each other. So what? What is so onerous about eating less or no meat?

I like meat. I feel cheated if I can't get my dead animal fix.

 

[RS]

So is she going to dump you if you eat meat at all? If not, again what the problem?

 

[Unrepresented]

So is she going to dump you if you eat meat at all? If not, again what the problem?

Overtly compromising more than I'm easily comfortable with.

 

[RS]

What is the the proposed compromised?

 

[Unrepresented]

What is the the proposed compromised?

Meals that automatically include meat.

 

[RS]

So you like meat more than your gf then.

 

[Unrepresented]

So you like meat more than your gf then.

I wouldn't say that I like meat more than my girlfriend, at least not all cuts.

 

[Staccato]

Growth through adversity!

This is not a relationship deal breaker, it's a difference in eating habits. Pass the Chicken, please!

 

[guy n. cognito]

Grow a pair and continue to eat meat. If she gets mad, run. She's a vegetarian, she won't make it a block.

 

[Munjibunga]

I keep trying to press meat on her, she keeps objecting for moral reasons.

I'm not sure how to interpret that. What exactly do you mean by "press meat"? If you're talking about food, aren't you doing exactly what you're afraid she'll do; try to influence your eating habits?

Now if you're talking in the figurative sense, you might want to start looking for a new girlfriend with more compatible moral standards.

 

[Honk'n_down-low]

No pictures No Girlfriend!


They are a little averse to Meat initially and then when they realize how good it is they all become Nymphs for the Sausage

 

[L-A]

I'm not sure how to interpret that. What exactly do you mean by "press meat"? If you're talking about food, aren't you doing exactly what you're afraid she'll do; try to influence your eating habits?

Now if you're talking in the figurative sense, you might want to start looking for a new girlfriend with more compatible moral standards.

"Do you feel it?"

 

[Unrepresented]

Growth through adversity!

This is not a relationship deal breaker, it's a difference in eating habits. Pass the Chicken, please!

Yeah, this is realistically the path I'll take.

Grow a pair and continue to eat meat. If she gets mad, run. She's a vegetarian, she won't make it a block.

She'll outlive me though, if that's worth anything.

I'm not sure how to interpret that. What exactly do you mean by "press meat"? If you're talking about food, aren't you doing exactly what you're afraid she'll do; try to influence your eating habits?

Now if you're talking in the figurative sense, you might want to start looking for a new girlfriend with more compatible moral standards.

Was going for a really bad double entendre. Right now we're friendly in mocking each others' dietary choices, nothing overtly rude.

No pictures No Girlfriend!


They are a little averse to Meat initially and then we they realize how good it is they all become Nymphs for the Sausage

I posted a pic of us in another thread. She's on here somewhere.

"Do you feel it?"

I can't feel the red x.

 

[Vic Winters]

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You could act like a man!


If you want to eat meat, eat meat. If she doesn't, she doesn't. No one's personal choice should effect the others. If she wants a veggie burger instead of a beef one, have her buy it and just throw it on the grill right next to yours.

 

[Lazylion]

If you want to eat meat, eat meat. If she doesn't, she doesn't. No one's personal choice should effect the others. If she wants a veggie burger instead of a beef one, have her buy it and just throw it on the grill right next to yours.

My brother has been married to a veggie woman for over 25 years. Their 3 sons are veggie too. They do eat fish, she makes a killer salmon. When she cooks for the family at home, he eats veggie. If they go to a backyard BBQ, they bring veggieburgers. When they go out, he orders meat if he wants it. They order veggie. The only problem is they can't go to restaurants that don't offer anything veggie. But there aren't very many of those. So a small problem if any.

I suggest the OP do something similar. Don't make a big deal out of it.

Or, you know, dump her.

 

[flipper_gv]

This might be the most ignorant post I've read on TB.

ffs I hate when people use the word ignorant and NEVER add to how the hell the post was ignorant. To me, this look like a very human way to kill animals. What do you want more to do to make it more human?

 

[PaulNYC]

I keep trying to press meat on her, she keeps objecting for moral reasons.

obviously she wants to wait for marriage.

 

[WalterBush]

I'll probably get my man card pulled for this, but honestly, relationship involve compromise and "drift" IMO. Each partner takes on some of the aspects of the other. It's inevitable when you live with someone that you won't be influenced by them. I don't currently want to be the vegetarian guy, but living with a vegetarian will, at the least, force me to work harder to keep up my carnivorous ways.

Anyone looking to pull your man card for this is probably on their 4th or 5th wife, or hasn't had a relationship of any real, lasting value and commitment.

The example I used is an extreme one of what happens when a couple doesn't communicate at all; one party in a couple deciding to go vegetarian (or any other drastic lifestyle change) can cause problems, and should be discussed.

As long as you guys are talking to each other openly, and not sitting on hidden carnivore vs. herbivore resentment, I'm sure it'll work out fine, whether you eat meat or not. For cryin' out loud, stop talking to us and start talking to her, already! She's better looking than any of us, anyway.