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So... my Mom died...
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My condolences. Work this out how ever you want.
It's yours. Think about your mom. Spend the time. Hopefully you'll be getting spring. Take a long walk and just be.
It's yours. Think about your mom. Spend the time. Hopefully you'll be getting spring. Take a long walk and just be.
Sorry for your loss, Time's the great healer & death the great equalizer - much a part of life as being born. Comes to us all. The best we can do is remember loved ones who pass with fondness & respect, You'll be in my prayers.
I'm sorry for your loss. I don't know what would work best for you, but just try to take care of yourself. It takes time.
My condolences - it's tough losing a parent. I was only 11 when my own mom died, but I'm sure it hurts anyone when it happens, regardless of age.
condolences to you and your family .
my Father passed away six years ago .
i think of him and miss him everyday .
it's a little easier now , but if i sit and dwell
on my loss , it still hurts ...
just try to keep moving ahead ,
and remember your Mom in your daily life .
my Father passed away six years ago .
i think of him and miss him everyday .
it's a little easier now , but if i sit and dwell
on my loss , it still hurts ...
just try to keep moving ahead ,
and remember your Mom in your daily life .
My condolences. Lost my dad a couple of years ago. Nothing sucks worse. Hang in there and make sure to spend quality time with the rest of your family.
Hang in there buddy.
What I have found to help is allowing myself to cry, and then surround myself with those I can enjoy memories with. I'm very social and like people, but I also realize some people aren't that way and find comfort in solitude.
-Mike
What I have found to help is allowing myself to cry, and then surround myself with those I can enjoy memories with. I'm very social and like people, but I also realize some people aren't that way and find comfort in solitude.
-Mike
Went through the same thing with my mom in 2010. It gets better. There are good days and bad days at first, but soon the good days will surpass the bad. Just take it one day at a time, and don't worry about the grieving. We all get past events like this in our own way, and there's no set "time" to be done with it. Good vibes sent your way.
So sorry brother. I went through that last summer, very similar downward spiral. It is always good to remember the suffering of the one dying in contrast to our own loss - their need for peace trumps our pain at the loss.
Try to remember the good times, the parts of her life you think were particularly good for her. For starters it sounds like she had a loving son...that is a good thing in any mom's book I think.
If you don't mind the Christian basis of it, I would recommend Invalid Link Removed .
Try to remember the good times, the parts of her life you think were particularly good for her. For starters it sounds like she had a loving son...that is a good thing in any mom's book I think.
If you don't mind the Christian basis of it, I would recommend Invalid Link Removed .
I am sorry to hear of your loss, but posting and sharing this is a very good way of coping. Sharing your loss lessens the load you bear and shows how, even if we've never met in person, people want to help in the most basic of ways. And when you have good news, share that too, as it is doubled each time. We forget that feelings and emotions are physical quantities with real effects. Sharing grief dissipates the sadness quicker, while sharing joy multiplies it. Remember the good times, don't waste your time with the other stuff, I suspect your mother wouldn't want it any other way.
Sharing your experience is a good way to start coping. A part of growing up is to bury your parents. Not pleasant but part of life, so enjoy and grow from this experience. As you wrap up her affairs you'll probably learn a few things about your mom that you never knew. As you send out notices to her friends and relatives, some of which you've never met, they'll share information with you: enjoy this. Remember her as you look through her things, take care of taxes, close accounts, sell old cars, etc. It something we as kids do, it's something that are parents and grandparents did. It's just part of life
I'm sorry to hear of your loss.
It may not be of much comfort to you, but my attitude is that, as long as we remember them, they are not completely gone.
It may not be of much comfort to you, but my attitude is that, as long as we remember them, they are not completely gone.
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I am sorry for your loss. Hang in there. There are indeed good days and bad.
Over time, the pain grows less, and the good memories sustain you.
Over time, the pain grows less, and the good memories sustain you.
I wish you the best. I feel for you. I lost my father when I was just 21. He was literally the center of my family and we all took it extremely hard. Through out my upbringing I had had frequent conversations about death and afterlife and I feel these conversations made it easier for me than the rest of my family, especially my younger sister. What kept me going was thinking about how an important part of my life was gone but I still go on and need to move forward, the world hasn't ended. I also got by, by continuing to tell myself that it was important that I move forward remembering the wisdom he gave me while he could.
I get what your saying about it being your mother and not theirs. Everyone elses support seems so... insignificant for lack of a better word. Its important to remember that everyone who knew her is going to be suffering, just all in very very different ways. When someone says something that may grate your nerves just remember to take a breath and not lash out in anger over any of this. Feel free to vent here or even PM me if needed. it always helps a little bit to talk.
I get what your saying about it being your mother and not theirs. Everyone elses support seems so... insignificant for lack of a better word. Its important to remember that everyone who knew her is going to be suffering, just all in very very different ways. When someone says something that may grate your nerves just remember to take a breath and not lash out in anger over any of this. Feel free to vent here or even PM me if needed. it always helps a little bit to talk.
Sorry to hear of your loss.
In my experience only time (and lots of it) dulls the pain. Only time.
Don't try and handle it alone. Rely on family and friends for support. It's okay to just hold them and sob.
Again, truly sorry for your loss.
In my experience only time (and lots of it) dulls the pain. Only time.
Don't try and handle it alone. Rely on family and friends for support. It's okay to just hold them and sob.
Again, truly sorry for your loss.
Hey, man, first off my heart goes out to you. My mom passed away on January 14. Unlike your situation, my mom's passing was totally unexpected. One day she was fine the next I'm standing in a hospital feeling like I took a brick between the eyes. The fact of the matter is that's mom. There is never going to be anyone else that can fill that void. There are no words to tell you everything's going to get better. Life just slowly returns to it's normal pace. You WILL hit moments when something you see, taste, smell, hear, or feel will bring back memories and you'll be overcome. Don't hold it back. Give yourself the time to grieve and let your pain take it's natural course. Grief is very different for each person. There's no right or wrong way to do it, but you need to let it happen. Like I said, I'm still working through my mom's passing, so I know where you're coming from. If you need to vent, shoot me an email or pm. May your family find peace in God's grace. Love to you and your family.
