Texting before every Band Rehearsal...why?

[Hummergeist]

I'd prefer this to radio silence. It only takes a 'thumbs up' to reply.

 

[lermgalieu]

It would bug me if no one texted unless there has been some definitive communication about that specific night beyond "we rehearse on Tuesdays" (or whatever day). Stuff happens, as mentioned above. If really pressing stuff happens, someone might forget to communicate until it's uncomfortably late, or not at all. I don't know about you guys, but I've got a full life, with kids, etc. I don't bag on a rehearsal lightly, but sometimes it happens, or sometimes I am late because of a kids' game or practice or whatever. 3 weeks ago a close friend died very unexpectedly. You can bet the band wasn't at the very top of my list that day. So I think this is about you, not them. The person who is checking in is, as far as I can tell, just being proactive and responsible, and doesn't want to be the last to find out if there's no rehearsal.

 

[TexasHeat]

My original band practices every other week, so I send out a quick text a coupla days beforehand to see if everyone can make it. It's these texts that remind them and to see if they can make it or not. Yup, we're all responsible adults, but all busy with day gigs and mutliple bands, so it's easy to forget.

Speaking of which....

 

[Fynn]

Ignore the text if it bugs you. Were in 2023, and the likelyhood that your phone has the ability to mute specific text chats is very very very very high.
Some people are anxious and or have bad memory. And some people just have trust issues (me included). I've heard people say all kinds of things and then later do the opposite. So if you verbally agree to rehears again, then that might just not be enough for him. I rehearsed very rarely and I've probably had more rehearsals canceled on me, than I have actually went to. If I don't have words with letters infront of me that confirm something, then I don't trust it. That doesn't fly in work life, private life, or hobby life. A text with a date and time takes about 3 seconds to make and you're not even the one who's tasked with answering him. Maybe you need more empathy.

 

[dalkowski]

I'd live with the petty annoyance you describe to have the peace of mind that comes from knowing someone cares enough to confirm.

 

[Hot Rats]

Ha, the drummer just cancelled rehearsal tonight. But I was gonna check later on today anyhow. He let us know though....

 

[Kevin Hailey]

Our start-up band has been rehearsing on the same night of the week since we started it. We all know it and we discuss it at the end of each rehearsal. Even so, one member of the band will always text on the day of practice "Are we still practicing tonight?" We're all adults and all should know and remember about band practice. It bugs me that he keeps doing this. Why does it bug me so much and how can I get him to stop doing it?

(I know a lot of you don't rehearse but that isn't the topic here, okay?)

Griping to strangers on the internet is sure to get you problem solved faster than having a conversation with the guy you are having a problem with. ​

 

[gazzatriumph]

In a previous band I used to text everyone to make sure they were OK for rehearsal and gigs. The one time I didn't text a gig reminder/check, the drummer didn't show up. It was a Friday night gig and he thought it was the Saturday.

 

[51PRI]

Last week I showed up for rehearsal, didn't send my usual text asking for confirmation,and the guitar player broke 3 toes and cancelled practice! Guess they forgot to text me....so it happens

Well, that's obviously an unavoidable accident. That can happen.

I find it more helpful to text "What are we going over tonight?" and offering a couple of suggestions. Last minute fall-outs will respond with their reason. Nothing A R about it.
If your band is more than a social getaway it is advantageous to have an outline.

Oh, THAT text had already been sent a few days ago.

Is it possible for you to just ignore the texts? On another note, some people have so much inconsistency in other parts of their lives that they just double check/verify everything.

If I ignore the (band) text he will start texting me individually.

I’ve got a band, we’ve been texting since June, no rehearsal yet.

Wanna trade?

 

[stigbeve]

Me, too. I looked through my content files to see if I had started a thread like this before, and I couldn't find one.

Why Text every freakin' time to ask "Is practice still on for tonight?"

 

[Pings Bass]

Musicians are flakey and affirmative communication is good

 

[Renaissance]

Maybe he's trolling you!

 

[Not Insane]

Sadly, a lot of musicians are simply not very reliable. It seems to come with the territory. Heck, I'm in a new project that is having its first rehearsal tonight. The last few days I've been waiting for the "practice is cancelled/postponed" call. I got it about an hour ago.

In my day job this simply doesn't happen except for REAL emergencies. The good news is that at least I got a call this time.

 

[51PRI]

Musicians are flakey and affirmative communication is good

In many cases yes but in this case there are no flakes.

 

[Not Insane]

In many cases yes but in this case there are no flakes.

Then maybe it's just force of habit. I'd ask the band about it. There must be some sort of history driving this.

 

[themickster]

Our start-up band has been rehearsing on the same night of the week since we started it. We all know it and we discuss it at the end of each rehearsal. Even so, one member of the band will always text on the day of practice "Are we still practicing tonight?" We're all adults and all should know and remember about band practice. It bugs me that he keeps doing this. Why does it bug me so much and how can I get him to stop doing it?

(I know a lot of you don't rehearse but that isn't the topic here, okay?)

Ask him why he does it.

 

[MYLOWFREQ]

It is most likely he's doing that to remind the other members that you're rehearsing.

Our singer is a sweetheart, but she texts regarding our band a lot. I don't respond to most of them and I don't get mad because I know she's doing that because of excitement

 

[Parzival]

Ask him why he does it.

It's amazing how long it sometimes takes to get to the obvious answer.

 

[themickster]

It's amazing how long it sometimes takes to get to the obvious answer.

Why didn't I think of that sooner?

 

[Parzival]

Why didn't I think of that sooner?

Why didn't everyone think of that sooner?