Texting before every Band Rehearsal...why?

[Indiana Mike]

We do, and it’s a good thing we do.
In the last year I’ve shown up at least twice to loneliness because I didn’t see the text.

 

[selowitch]

A text to remind me of tomorrow's rehearsal is appreciated.

 

[micguy]

I grew up in a family where we'd agree to meet halfway between our places a month in advance (a 4 hour trip for everyone), and we'd show up - we didn't need to discuss something that was agreed on unless something changed.

Then I started hanging out with friends where you HAD to have a cell phone (20 years ago) to be their friends, because they didn't plan anything more than a half an hour ahead of time - if you didn't have a cell phone, you wouldn't know what was happening.

It's just part of how people operate nowadays - they figure someone might have backed out, and they need to confirm that things are still in place. Even if you don't think that way, they do.

 

[micguy]

In many cases yes but in this case there are no flakes.

The guy who needs constant confirmation seems to be a flake in your viewpoint, assuming I'm reading this right.

 

[JimmyM]

I’d rather have someone check in than get there and someone bailed last minute.

 

[3Liter]

Here is the other side of the coin:
I hope he has a good reason for no-show

 

[BlueTalon]

Maybe he has the farthest to drive?

If so, unexpectedly canceling a practice has the most PITA impact on him. (Not saying the guy isn't weird, just saying this might be a consideration.)

 

[JRA]

I’ve got a band, we’ve been texting since June, no rehearsal yet.

funny!



@51PRI, a common theme in your threads is that you are unhappy with your band.

 

[mambo4]

I would not be annoyed by someone confirming each rehearsal via text.
I would consider them as having their act together

 

[Pings Bass]

In many cases yes but in this case there are no flakes.

Great! Congrats.

I still prefer explicit communication. For example, in this situation, you could discuss your irritation with the person irritating you, and likely come fairly quickly to an understanding.

 

[Grinderman]

Maybe what this is really about your relationship with your phone.

 

[mdogs]

Someone is always annoyed over something, no communication, dumb communication, too much communication. Texts are a great way to communicate because they are so non-intrusive. Find an actual problem and then let us know about it.

 

[Sid the Kid]

Seems like a harmless practice to synchronize possibly eccentric musicians. Very easy to reply with a thumbs up to satisfy someone’s anxiety.

 

[Bonecat]

Texting got out of control for us, so we set up a discord server with separate spots depending on topic, e.g., rehearsal plans, gig planning, suggested new songs, jokes and BS, etc.. Works well for us…

 

[TN WOODMAN]

A similar situation happened a few years ago. I had VIP seats to RADIOHEAD opening for REM concert @ Nashville’s Starwood Amphitheater.

A friend insisted on having everyone at my house (closest to the venue) & he was more than happy to drive the group in his van.

Everyone but “Will” was on time at my place. We waited til last possible minute to leave.

We were seated basically as Thom said good night Nashville. I called Will & he sleepily answered . Oh . That was tonight? I forgot. Not only in this case did a desirable ticket not get used, the rest of us missed a great set.

Different situation but lends credence to making sure the event is on .

 

[edot3021]

You will probably have more success trying to let it not bug you.

 

[5StringBlues]

Coincidentally, I used to get wasted and trip!!

Probably so he doesn't make a wasted trip only to find out practice is not happening.

 

[gln1955]

Why Text every freakin' time to ask "Is practice still on for tonight?"

The 13 pages in that thread obviously didn't solve the problem.

 

[Grinderman]

I literally just talked over the phone with an electrical contractor I've had working for me. I wish he were as proactive and engaged as your bandmate.

 

[MultiScaleMale]

You are putting more effort into a thread about an unwanted text than just replying “Y”