I failed to address the bolded part of the OP.
I don't think we have been brainwashed into thinking that audible bass should be shunned. Quite the opposite. I prefer to listen to songs with a strong audible bassline (ex: The Police) myself.
But I do think that we hear things that the general music listener doesn't. We hear the different tones of the traditional basses, and we notice roundwound and flat string tones among many other things that others (including other musicians) couldn't care less about. We sometimes put too much importance in things that really don't matter to the typical listener. But, if we don't care, who will?
Honestly, the typical listener doesn't care about our tone, our gear, or our technique. They really only notice the bass if it is wrong. If they can rock or dance or otherwise groove to it, that's all that really matters.
But again, when you come on here and ask everyone on TB for an opinion, you are asking for the opinion of people almost obsessed with all things bass related to use their special powers and give you an edge by hearing things and pointing out things the typical listener won't hear or notice. So if you can gleen anything from the criticism, that's good. Maybe, you should just think about it all for a few days, and listen again with fresh ears and see if you agree with what has been said. Since you did all the instruments yourself, it is easy for me to understand that you may not be as objective as you could be right now.
You may come back and say you think everyone is wrong, and it sounds exactly like you want it to. There is nothing wrong with that either. It's your music, and it's your picture that you are trying to paint musically. If it says what you want it to say, and how you want to say it, then screw what I, and others have said critically and just be proud of your work.