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the mid-life rut?

Discussion in 'Off Topic [BG]' started by Icey101, Mar 23, 2014.

  1. This is hard to explain. For a good six to 12 months I've been lacking enthusiasm. I dont feel like looking forward to doing anything interesting, weeks go by. I dont do much on the weekends any more. I used to work on the house alot but most of the jobs are now complete so I just sit around watching tv. My kids are grown up teenagers now and dont need help much anymore. Most people look forward to travelling or going on holidays, I don't. I've got some old motorbikes that need restoring and I can't be bothered starting work on them. I still go to the gym and ride my cycle for exercise, so i am still fit but seem to be in a bit of a rut. Is this some sort of mid-life depression? I need to break out and get going again but dont seem to want to.
  2. Milk


    Sep 16, 2013
    Montreal, Canada
    yeah well death is closing in. What's left ahead you know? All the best years are obviously behind. The opportunities all gone. Just sit down and wait for death is what I say.
  3. philvanv

    philvanv Gerbil Turds, Kitsap County Turd Core

    Jul 2, 2012
    and at the bottom it says thank you, and now you can shag off
    Ha, probably just a down period. They say exercise is the key.
  4. bolophonic


    Dec 10, 2009
    Durham, NC
    Not to make light of your situation at all, but I would relish the idea of having nothing to do and no motivation to find something to do for a little while. Life is full of ups and downs, so unless you are clinically depressed, I'd let it ride for a while.
  5. 96tbird

    96tbird PLEASE STAND BY Supporting Member

    Flagging testosterone. Soon you'll be crying at most movies that have a real story with any sentiment; avoid them at all cost. Need for Speed: that's the ticket.
  6. That was somewhat of a douchey response.
  7. placedesjardins


    May 7, 2012
    I changed careers into something I've always wanted to do. When that didn't work out, I changed careers back. Now, I'm big into Angry Birds. Pretty lame. I'd like to get back into music performance though.
  8. catcauphonic

    catcauphonic High Freak of the Low Frequencies Supporting Member

    Mar 30, 2012
    Seattle WA
    I can somewhat relate. Although I'm a pretty immature 44 (45 next month! Gasp!!)

    I didn't start playing bass till halfway through my 42nd year. That was a big one for me as it's opened up a whole new world, and I'm now doing band stuff that feels very exciting for the first time at any age. I find the hard part with most undertakings is taking the first step to doing it ... once I get it going I can be engaged, but often don't look forward to it (not counting cleaning the apartment :p) Having someone to do stuff with really really helps here ... you can kind of push each other and see results that validate your time as well spent. Hope this makes sense.
  9. 6jase5

    6jase5 Mammogram is down but I'm working manually Supporting Member

    Dec 17, 2007
    San Diego/LA
    69 Camaro or GTO. Do mid life the right way.
  10. bass_case

    bass_case Maintain low tones. Supporting Member

    Oct 23, 2013
    Miami, FL
    We're all just circling the drain, you don't notice it so much until you get to those faster-moving inner circles.
  11. BawanaRik


    Mar 6, 2012
    New Jersey
    I'm not sure if this is to be taken seriously or not.

    But still even if the best years are behind you there's always the chance of few good years ahead.
  12. Sav'nBass

    Sav'nBass What the .............. Supporting Member

    Jan 18, 2009
    Northern Va.
    I think third hit it on the head... Plus we go through this... you look at your life and it begins to dawn on you that you have more years behind you than ahead of you..If it lasts for more than a month or so I'd talk to my doctor. Also what are you eating? You'd be surprised at how much what we eat affects our mood.
  13. Tat2dHeart

    Tat2dHeart Only two strings away from an attitude problem.

    When I hit 40, my life took off. Ids we're grow, so I just did what I wanted...even when it was nothing. Turned 50 today, and I'm planning 50 more years of awesomeness. Bought self a new car to celebrate.
  14. dieselbass


    May 15, 2010
    Davis CA
    Might try a project partner for the bikes. I turn 50 later this year and have some hard earned wisdom with the years. I'm also watching my dad who's in his late 70's restore an old John Deere wagon for a local museum and having a blast. My son and I are his project buddies on this.

    Don't throw in the towel though. Yeah, some days I think about more days behind then ahead, but that passes pretty quick. Like the song says, "I'm not as good as I once was/but I'm as good once as I ever was". Get out and get after it.
  15. go get a physical....a comprehensive one.....all the middle age guy stuff.....this is the time when people you don't know start getting real familiar with your tail pipe.....it's entirely possible you're just a little depressed....it's also possible that even though you feel physically fit,that things are wrong under the hood.....

    if it's just middle age "whats it all for" blahs,get over it.... ,go buy some toys, and have some fun....cause 40 may not be as fun as 20 or 30,but it is way more fun than 50 or 60.....and there's really no more time to find yourself.....you're it,for good or ill.....make it count .....

    but if something is wrong you need to know now....
  16. Milk


    Sep 16, 2013
    Montreal, Canada
    I call it humor.
  17. matante


    Nov 3, 2003
    Los Angeles
    Happy birthday!
  18. You go to the gym. I assume you re a musician since you're posting here. In both of these endeavors I plateau & find I have to just work through them. Alternatively you could feep going to the gym, switch it up (weight training, aerobics) or find something else (yoga, swimming, martial arts). For music, take lessons for bass or learn another instrument. Having a daily meditation regime might prove helpful as well.
  19. Boom762

    Boom762 I AM the one who Booms! Supporting Member

    Oct 19, 2013
    Lubbock, TX
    In Deer. A "rut" is when they are having a lot of happy time with the doe's. Maybe eat some zinc, get some excercise, and start mating a lot. Itll be a good passtime till you find that next undertaking.
  20. machine gewehr

    machine gewehr

    Sep 17, 2005
    I get the blues on a regular basis. I strongly recommend ridiculously violent video games. Add in some creative language and voila, you have Bulletstorm! :D