Here's my thought on the subject. Paying taxes is not the same as getting screwed over. The idea of taxation-as-punishment is just an empty debate tactic, whether it comes from the tea party or the radical left.
Likewise, it's worth keeping an eye on fairness, but don't try to get too precise about it, or you'll just end up going around in circles or creating ever more ridiculous definitions of fairness.
Instead, let taxation be for raising money to run the government -- whatever that amounts to. My preference would be for the gov't to provide a fairly extensive list of services, not radically different than what we've got right now, but strengthened in areas such as education and health care, plus a more robust safety net. If some activities dump a large cost on society or on the government, then tax those activities. Given that a complex society will discover and exploit loopholes, the tax system has to evolve in order to chase those loopholes. That's unavoidable.
Your preferences might be different.