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What questions do you wish people would stop asking?
- Thread starter droo46
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"Hey! Where are your other 2 strings? HARDEE-HAR-HAR-HAR..."
"What is the best ...?". Sorry, there ain't no universal best. What is best is a subjective, personal observation. That's why there is a myriad of manufacturers, vendors and models.
I will approve of questions like, "What do you like?" and "What would you do?" and "What would you suggest?"
I will approve of questions like, "What do you like?" and "What would you do?" and "What would you suggest?"
“Can you direct me to the restroom?”
On the forum (not necessarily beginers): "What color X do I like?"
Unfortunately, one of my bands will bust into Freebird when this is yelled out. Thankfully (so far anyway), only when the KB is with us which isn't often.
I was in a metal band in the heyday of people asking for that. All originals. We actually worked it just the main vocal parts as fast as possible. It was like 1 minute long.
I used to get annoyed by such things both here and "out there".
These days I'm a little more philosophical about it.
As for young beginners here, let them ask whatever they want. I certainly here a couple decades ago with a TON of misconceptions. I learned. That's how it works.
Countless times I have had younger beginners stop me after a show or during a break. I used to (albeit politely) brush them aside. These days?
"Sure. Come on up here. Check this thing out. Put it on. You can't hurt it. Hit a few notes. You have a Soundgear? Awesome! That's MUCH nicer than my first bass!"
My wife is a pediatrician. Not long ago she was rounding on new babies in her practice. The father of a new baby heard her last name and asked if she was related to me. When she said she was married to me, he had her relay a message to me.
He wanted to thank me for being so cool to him when he was a teenage boy playing guitar as open mic nights. He was kind of a "nerd" (his word) back then. And our letting him get up and jam boosted his confidence immensely. He turned a corner. He came out of his shell. He still plays guitar to this day.
On short, our being kind to him wad a turning point for him.
Often here I cringe when people pile on a kid/new member asking about the best bass for metal or something similar. Give the kid a break. Either ask some questions to gain context and clarity or move along. Welcome them or see yourself out.
Ask away, I say. I'm not that delicate.
These days I'm a little more philosophical about it.
As for young beginners here, let them ask whatever they want. I certainly here a couple decades ago with a TON of misconceptions. I learned. That's how it works.
Countless times I have had younger beginners stop me after a show or during a break. I used to (albeit politely) brush them aside. These days?
"Sure. Come on up here. Check this thing out. Put it on. You can't hurt it. Hit a few notes. You have a Soundgear? Awesome! That's MUCH nicer than my first bass!"
My wife is a pediatrician. Not long ago she was rounding on new babies in her practice. The father of a new baby heard her last name and asked if she was related to me. When she said she was married to me, he had her relay a message to me.
He wanted to thank me for being so cool to him when he was a teenage boy playing guitar as open mic nights. He was kind of a "nerd" (his word) back then. And our letting him get up and jam boosted his confidence immensely. He turned a corner. He came out of his shell. He still plays guitar to this day.
On short, our being kind to him wad a turning point for him.
Often here I cringe when people pile on a kid/new member asking about the best bass for metal or something similar. Give the kid a break. Either ask some questions to gain context and clarity or move along. Welcome them or see yourself out.
Ask away, I say. I'm not that delicate.
"What questions do you wish people would stop asking?"
"Yes, a real bass!"
Have you seen the band? And I ‘m 6,7.
During break... "Have you seen this band before?"
20 years ago, I had my only yellow-page advertisement. As it turned out, it was essentially useless: a total waste of money.
But... people WERE calling: “What’s the difference between a violin and a fiddle?”
That was the most common call. It was frustrating, as of course I had thought being “in the yellow pages” was a guaranteed path to success.
But I told them that if Isaac Stern handed his violin to Roy Clark it would instantly become a fiddle. Then I chatted with them as a friendly contact, rather than taking out my frustrations on them. It was a good habit to learn. People still call and pepper me with questions, and I welcome it. Once in a while they become customers. And by that time, a good relationship has been built.
But... people WERE calling: “What’s the difference between a violin and a fiddle?”
That was the most common call. It was frustrating, as of course I had thought being “in the yellow pages” was a guaranteed path to success.
But I told them that if Isaac Stern handed his violin to Roy Clark it would instantly become a fiddle. Then I chatted with them as a friendly contact, rather than taking out my frustrations on them. It was a good habit to learn. People still call and pepper me with questions, and I welcome it. Once in a while they become customers. And by that time, a good relationship has been built.
Amano.... what are the chances we both post the same thing at about the same time....
In here I kind of wish people would stop asking questions that will make other people feel bad about the questions they want to ask.
Out there? Nothing, really. "Do you teach?" I suppose is one that I don't have a satisfying answer for, because I don't feel like I know enough theory to be an effective teacher long term, and I have never analyzed my playing well enough to figure out how to explain it to someone. So that answer is always "no."
Back in the day I used to walk into a club with case in hand and, more than once, be asked if I'm "with" the band. No, I'm "in" the band, I'm not a roadie
I don't really hear that one anymore.
Out there? Nothing, really. "Do you teach?" I suppose is one that I don't have a satisfying answer for, because I don't feel like I know enough theory to be an effective teacher long term, and I have never analyzed my playing well enough to figure out how to explain it to someone. So that answer is always "no."
Back in the day I used to walk into a club with case in hand and, more than once, be asked if I'm "with" the band. No, I'm "in" the band, I'm not a roadie
I don't really hear that one anymore.
