Holy crap...the dance of the dead here! Good thread idea tho. Better than my first.
2 May 2001
http://www.talkbass.com/threads/funding-your-secret-purchase.16951
I like that thread idea, perhaps because I was in a situation like that. Made my first purchase since marriage (18 years) and kids, knew I shouldn't 'cuz we were digging out of a hole, but did it anyway. It was a unique opportunity and a special bass.
Anyway, long story short - hid the bass from her for two years and she never knew, but if felt guilty as hell. Paranoid when gigging it for fear of a photo revealing my deceit. Couldn't practice freely on it since it was hidden (it's a fretless, I needed to spend time with it, but couldn't).
Anyway - when my wife was racking her brain trying to figure out what to get me for my 50th birthday, I told her "all I want is your forgiveness" and I came clean on the purchase. She was very forgiving and understanding, and even then thought she should "do something else" for me. I refused, and said "this is it, just let me enjoy it freely" and she agreed.
She really should have said "sell it, you a-hole", but she didn't. As she has said more than once - "best wife ever".
The response was edited or deleted. Enough said....