I can relate, man.
I haven't played the downtown scene here for quite awhile, but back when I was (mid-late '90's - early-mid 2000's) it was the same deal. Original rock, 5-band bills, etc. Get cheap DI put before the amp, sound like bland-average at best, more often "plink/woof" crap...not like it mattered, guitars so loud and fullrange, drums so pounding, bass was an afterthought. A lot of guys you couldn't really tell what they were playing, even really good players, just notice the sound a little bit more "empty" if they stopped.
Running into a soundcrew who would do you right, either using a mic, or post-eq amp DI, or even a dry one off the bass but gave a damn and gave you a nice sound, was a real treat and didn't happen that often.
Still hear much of the same if I go see shows now. Run into the occasional good sound job and the difference is noght and day. A lot of these guys are running 5 bands a night they've never heard. A crap DI is the easy way out. I've spent time on both sides of the board and still do, I know all the crap there is to deal with, yet still, I can manage to pull a decent sound out of everybody...not throw one instrument in the trash so you can impress yourself sending "boom-click" kickdrum through your subs with no bass guitar punching along with it.
Older now, doing covers, playing mostly out of town, hauling my own PA and mixing my own band. Lot more crap to haul, sure. Sound quality and level of enjoyment is so much better, even though my stuff might costs 1/20th or less than what's in some of these clubs. Nothing like installing a 1/4 million dollar system, only to make it sound like crap.