I prefer music wherein rests are as important as notes.
There's one good reason why a lot of people bash metal: they don't really know it.
See, this statement indicates that there's a lot of metal (most "extreme" kinds, from the nastiest thrash to black/death) you would clearly hate, and I can't blame you for that.
However, it also means that you could like a lot of progressive, symphonic or funk metal. Here, have some prog:
YouTube - ‪Dream Theater - Scene Six: Home‬‏
Nice and melodic, with tons of dynamics, and not even that fast. Yeah, 12 minutes, too -- that's how Dream Theater roll
The idea that
all metal is non-stop blastbeats and sixteenth power chords with no dynamics at all is just plain wrong.
Metal is, in fact, the only genre that I know of (perhaps classical, too) that can claim to be as varied as jazz. And like jazz, it requires an initial investment to get into. It sounds weird at first, it's rarely -- if ever -- on TV and radio, it's decried by "moral guardians" as the spawn of the devil, and there's an absurd
lot of it.
I understand why some (mostly males) in their teens and twenties like metal. That a subset of them never move on is somewhat mystifying (to me).
I suspect that if you tried to explore some of its less-brutal subgenres (prog, symphonic, maybe some eighties heavy like Iron Maiden), you would understand. Heck, who knows, you might even find that you like some of it.
(for that matter, I'm certain there's a lot of metalheads on that forum -- me included -- that would be willing to recommend some bands to start with in [insert subgenre here])