Oddly enough, plenty of bass players are against actually trying things for themselves. So they repeat rigid rules. More power to them but it's not how I'd choose to go through life, closed off.
Mixing cabs can work. No matter what they say. Operative word being "can".
When you're faced with a "rule" like this, consider the source. I'd be willing to bet that most are simply repeating what they've read, with little to no practical experience behind it.
And yeah, you're damned if you do and damned if you don't if you dare even ask. That's just part of the silliness. And over the years I've even been asked not to rock the boat by describing several mixed cab rigs that worked out great for me professionally over the years. People refuse to understand that there is no single gig situation and focus only on what could go wrong, not what could go right.
My favorite is when people are admonished not to even try cabs together that they already own... buy what the "experts" think you should buy.