Boy, you just said a mouthful, Tom! I feel entirely the same way...and have felt that way for a good long time now.
When I go shopping for something I want or need, I generally know what it's worth before I begin. When I find one at a competitive price that I can comfortably afford, that's good enough for me: I buy it, I use it, I enjoy it. End of story.
When I'm on the selling end, I expect similar behavior from buyers - but too seldom see it. In particular, I have zero patience with the douchebag who can't recognize a great bargain when it's right in front of his nose - or even if he can, is still
determined to squeeze the very last dollar of concession out of me that he possibly can. At some point, it ceases to be about business...and morphs into some kind of twisted personal competition.
By the way, in my experience this entire mindset has deeply penetrated even the labor market: I can't tell you how many dopes here in New York City have tried to play hardball with me in compensation negotiations, trying not just to obtain my services on the cheap, but down-in-the-dirt cheap. It's extremely insulting. More than a few times, I've simply walked away - but what I've really wanted to say is: "This whole 'trying to get something for nothing' thing...Has it ever
really worked for you? In
any facet of your life"?
MM