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Women.. I don't understand them

Nah dude, don't play that card. I've known plenty of guys that got way more emotional than the average woman. For instance, not last week, my female friend got her ass -chewed- out by her boyfriend for going on a trip to Chicago, because he was worried, and I quote, "she'd start looking at the hot guys there,". Meaning he got jealous. Irrationally jealous, because she's been with him and NEVER cheated on him as long as they've been together. His jealousy was an emotional response. Her logical response was "I would not ever do that to you,". Did it work? No, he just whined like a little punk until she finally got fed up and just cut her vacation short.

Speak to me about logic again? People are people. Some are stupid and illogical, react purely out of emotion - good or bad- and some are logical, level headed and honest. Sure there are some catty, neurotic women. Plenty of them. But there are definitely self-centered, neurotic men that don't have an ounce of logic in their entire beings, too.

Im not denying that some men are more emotional than women, but thats not at all what I was commenting on. Displaying emotion is not the same as having ones perspective based in the emotional. Youve demonstrated such with an emotional, rather than logical, retort to my post. I apologize if I caused you any offense, it certainly was not my intention.

Some reading, if youre interested in what I was speaking on: http://www.google.com/#hl=en&site=&....,cf.osb&fp=bd6831b85bdb53a2&biw=1680&bih=849

Again, thats not to say that men dont have emotions or that women are not intelligent and can use/understand logic. Its more to do with our male/female human nature than intelligence of any type.
 
The answer to your question lies in the sack. What happens there makes or breaks it.

If your woman just likes your money, you've chosen poorly.

Not true. I've had an incredible sex life with women who drove me up a wall. The reason being I used to go for off the richter scale crazy when choosing a mate. If sex is the thing that makes or breaks a relationship that's going to equal a whole lot of misery. There has to be other aspects to keep a healthy balance. Respect, communication, and all that fun stuff. That's where the work part comes in. Unless the two of you just decide to call each other when you want a roll in the hay, but I wouldn't consider that as much of a relationship as it is merely a convenience.
 
Same woman for the last 15 years , I just showed her this thread , she agree with me;)

Of course she's going to agree with you sitting right next to her :smug:

Im kidding, of course. Consider yourself lucky for finding an exception to the rule.
Not all women just want to be loved, thats for sure. Come to California, I'll introduce you to my my newest exwife, and you can ask her how much I demonstrated my love for her. :D
 
From my own observations...

It is not until their mid-30s until many women realize the value of a man who treats them well, and offers love, respect, and support. This is often after many years of being treated like crap by good-looking, bad-boy, a-holes.

Of course this is not true of all women. Some figure it out earlier, some never do, and some are just f'n insane.

You make it sound as if women really want a bad boy, but when they get mid 30s, they realize it isn't feasible, so they just settle for a nice guy and learn to value *that* as opposed to *bad boy* attributes.

And deep down, I know there are plenty of women in their 30s and 40s who end up with "nice guys", but I KNOW deep in their hearts, they still yearn for the bad boy type. Thats why they end up having affairs in middle age.
 
I just posted on the "Famous Musicians You've ALMOST Met" thread. I said that I almost met the Allman Brothers, but was delayed by the antics of my looney girlfriend. Then I realized the post would have been just as valid for this thread. Well, ex-girlfriend, actually. I agree with the axiom which has been presented here: women=nuts.
 
Ok, I'll pose this scenario/question in regards to my date tonight...

So, I invited a woman out to grab a few drinks tonight. She accpeted without hesitation.
We agreed to meet at my new favorite Happy Hour spot. A little while later she makes a comment about one of her headlights being out, and she doesnt want to get pulled over on the way home. Since she doesnt live far away I offer to pick her up, to which she agreed. Earlier today she texts me to confirm for tonight, and asks if she should meet me there or if Im going to pick her up, to which I respond "I'll pick you up at 9". All is good to go.

Thats the scenario, heres the question: What are this woman's intentions for this evening?
I know them quite well, but do you?
 
Not true. I've had an incredible sex life with women who drove me up a wall. The reason being I used to go for off the richter scale crazy when choosing a mate. If sex is the thing that makes or breaks a relationship that's going to equal a whole lot of misery. There has to be other aspects to keep a healthy balance. Respect, communication, and all that fun stuff. That's where the work part comes in. Unless the two of you just decide to call each other when you want a roll in the hay, but I wouldn't consider that as much of a relationship as it is merely a convenience.

You're not used to my sense of humor, huh?

I was poking fun at the futility of the question by offering something so grossly over-simplified to not provide any true insight.

However, being a stud doesn't hurt. :p
 
Ok, I'll pose this scenario/question in regards to my date tonight...

So, I invited a woman out to grab a few drinks tonight. She accpeted without hesitation.
We agreed to meet at my new favorite Happy Hour spot. A little while later she makes a comment about one of her headlights being out, and she doesnt want to get pulled over on the way home. Since she doesnt live far away I offer to pick her up, to which she agreed. Earlier today she texts me to confirm for tonight, and asks if she should meet me there or if Im going to pick her up, to which I respond "I'll pick you up at 9". All is good to go.

Thats the scenario, heres the question: What are this woman's intentions for this evening?
I know them quite well, but do you?

Brown chicken brown cow
 
Ok, I'll pose this scenario/question in regards to my date tonight...

So, I invited a woman out to grab a few drinks tonight. She accpeted without hesitation.
We agreed to meet at my new favorite Happy Hour spot. A little while later she makes a comment about one of her headlights being out, and she doesnt want to get pulled over on the way home. Since she doesnt live far away I offer to pick her up, to which she agreed. Earlier today she texts me to confirm for tonight, and asks if she should meet me there or if Im going to pick her up, to which I respond "I'll pick you up at 9". All is good to go.

Thats the scenario, heres the question: What are this woman's intentions for this evening?
I know them quite well, but do you?

will have sex for fixed headlight
 
What are this woman's intentions for this evening?

It's clear. She wants you to pay for her drinks all night and get so $#!+faced drunk that she can't stand up, let alone drive her own car. Despite the fact that you will be highly embarassed by her behavior, she'll still expect you to haul her @$$ out of the bar, and get her home safely. By the time you get her there, the last of the tequila shots will have settled in, and she'll be incoherent and completely useless for any kind of sexy-time games. If you're lucky, she won't puke on your shoes...


...or what Bloodhammer said.
 
It's clear. She wants you to pay for her drinks all night and get so $#!+faced drunk that she can't stand up, let alone drive her own car. Despite the fact that you will be highly embarassed by her behavior, she'll still expect you to haul her @$$ out of the bar, and get her home safely. By the time you get her there, the last of the tequila shots will have settled in, and she'll be incoherent and completely useless for any kind of sexy-time games. If you're lucky, she won't puke on your shoes...


...or what Bloodhammer said.

Haha, if shes that kind of girl, she'll be finding a ride at closing time, most likely calling up some guy she's friend zoned.
She couldnt possibly afford a cab, not after buying her own drinks all night.
 
EricF said:
It's clear. She wants you to pay for her drinks all night and get so $#!+faced drunk that she can't stand up, let alone drive her own car. Despite the fact that you will be highly embarassed by her behavior, she'll still expect you to haul her @$$ out of the bar, and get her home safely. By the time you get her there, the last of the tequila shots will have settled in, and she'll be incoherent and completely useless for any kind of sexy-time games. If you're lucky, she won't puke on your shoes...

...or what Bloodhammer said.

+1. This was my first thoughts, but I will say this. She is giving you clear signals that she's keeping her options open and that a romp in the hay is not off the table, unless she likes doing it on the table, especially a pool table, sometimes a dining table, or a kitchen table once in awhile. She doesn't strike me as a coffee table type, usually there's a couch nearby those tables. What were we talking about again?

Oh yeah chicks. Listen this article was written to perpetuate the myths. Matticus was right in one regard, chick's rely on emotion more than logic, and I'll even go as far as to say that sometimes they misinterpret them as sexual attraction. But there is one constant the generally works, they ALL crave attention. It's not the 'type' of guy. That's what this article wants you to believe.

Nice guys or to be more specific guys that have been relegated to the dreaded 'friend zone' never get laid because chicks don't value their attention. It's always there when they want it because a dude in the friend zone is always available, always there to listen, and NEVER regulates the amount of attention they give to these chicks. Chicks want what they can't have, and it's not the bad guy, or complicated artist, or the good looking guy. They want the attention from the guy that's not giving them attention. Attention is a chicks crack. They hoard it, collect it, covet it, dream about it, and get off on it.

I have a joke with a buddy of mine. How do you get laid by a blonde chick? Tell her you're into brunettes. How do you get laid by a brunette? Tell her you're into blondes? You want to know why I love sexy Asian chicks? Because you get laid by telling them you're into sexy Asian chicks. :D

Seriously though. If you want avoid the friend zone and always be a consideration for a chick learn how to regulate the attention you give her. Upon first meeting her, make her laugh, half joke half be serious about how hot she is, etc etc, and let her get used to the attention. If she doesn't put out, remove your attention. Sometimes this is such a shock to a chick they might have sex with you just to get your attention back even when they had no inclination of having sex with you in the first place.

So gentlemen, don't let me hear you talk about not being the bad guy, or her 'type' again. Control her crack. Regulate your attention. My two cents :)

Oh and Matticus. Tap that multiple times. Repeatedly. Wear a jimmy.
 
Oh and Matticus. Tap that multiple times. Repeatedly. Wear a jimmy.

I will be! :does cabbage patch:

Im prepared for some banging before I sleep over, and again in the morning. Anymore attention than that...

Then I wont talk her to her for a week. And in the meantime, she should probably get that headlight checked out, cuz next time Im not driving.
 

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