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Working bassists who have quit drinking

Since I got back into gigging after about ten years away from the bass, I just don't drink during the gig at all, anymore. Figured out I need my wits about me to play and sing my best. Tonic water and lime tastes good, on the bandstand. I'll knock back a beer when we're done for the night. Maybe have another out of the frig when I get home.

Yeah, it's weird to watch other people (not bandmates, fortunately) get sloshed and think, "Sh*t--is that what I used to look like?"
 
I dont have any larger issues with drinking and alcohol, but i rarely drink on gigs. most of the other folks I play with are so good that i just feel like i need to be at my best when we gig. Alcohol always tends to slow me down and get me a little sloppy. Funny, because now that I'm playing all of the time, I get offered freedrinks everywhere....

Every time I see a club owner or bartender lining up free shots for the band, I always wonder what the $&@! Are they thinking????? I played with some guys about 8 years ago that drank so much they used to get in fights onstage and one of my last gigs with them, the guitar player actually got into a drunken brawl with the bar manager BEFORE we got paid for the gig....***?????
 
I'm not a "working musician" at this point, but I do jam with guys that drink quite heavily, and that I used to drink quite heavily with... I just don't have the need to drown the crap out any more... I think I am probably lucky in this regard, because I am not really under any pressure to get plowed with the guys any more. I guess that is just the effect of getting older.
 
I made 6 months sober, in 2012, before friends, coworkers, and worst of all bandmates got me back drinking. If you are a serious drinker, you get "the thirst" and can't stop, you need to remove yourself from all social interactions with everyone and anyone you used to drink with. At least a couple months. One of my old singers has done this; we only use social media to remains.friends, but that's what he needs to succeed.

When/if you still play gigs in settings with alcohol open to you, pick a sober partner to hang out with, and set an early time when you need to leave. Its a very difficult process to re-train behavior in your old social settings. Absolutely get a friend to confide in and watch you while you're there.

I'll add the best tip I ever got, to carry a glass bottle of Perrier. It feels like a beer in your hand, it clinks like a beer bottle when people cheers you, and it tricks your subconscious. Tonic with lime is also a good one.

Good luck.
 
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Working bassists who have quit drinking... how many of you are out there? What changes have you made to your music lifestyle regarding the bands you play with or projects you get involved with? I had a health scare on tour in a foreign country a little over 2 months ago and I promptly quit drinking based on doctor's advice (it wasn't the main issue, but it never hurts to listen to the doc). Since then i've been taking a LONG look at my relationships in music and life and how the 2 co-exist. I can deal with people who drink, that's not the issue, it's more about seeing who people (i.e. some bandmembers and others I work with) really are without me being under the influence. In other words do I want to keep doing this with people who are not what i thought they were?

If you have been in this situation did you stay or go? If you stayed, what kind of personal concessions did you make to keep your sanity? Do you keep the gig for the obvious reasons and push through, or are you are better off not being there? I'm not at this point yet by any means, but if it comes up I was just curious how others are handling stuff like this.

I have never been much of a drinker. It takes me a whole month to go through a 6 pack of beer. I buy a nice bottle of wine and forget to drink it. I just never drink enough to get drunk. Sometimes on gigs I drink NA beer. So I never quit drinking ... I just don't drink much.
 
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I drink rarely anyway so it was easy. The hard things for me were the gigs where drinking onstage was expected in order to sell booze. I'd always ask them to sub out water or tea for me but they never would. Glad I'm out of that world. I saw through that ruse. They want you to spend your paycheck with them...that's what that little scheme is. Why do clubowners have to suck so bad sometimes?
 
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I've been straight edge (punk rock poser/CM Punk fan (maybe) based abstinence from drink/drugs) for over three years and the last band I was in resulted in there being a little bit of a problem between myself and the guys I was with. Depending on the music and the people, alcohol abstinence can be a real mood killer and a social barrier at times, especially when you're killing time between or after shows. It's probably best you do your best to gauge the personalities you'll be working with, otherwise you could end up burnt and feeling disconnected from everyone you're playing with.
 
perspective ... they haven't changed , but you have ... you see them thru clearer eyes which enables to focus on their flaws that where over looked after a few drinks .... been there ... maybe try to look past their flaws and ' look for the good ' ... if it's their ' playing ' , simply record and play back when sober ... but sometimes being slightly buzzed becomes part of the act ... been there also ... but really you shouldn't have Expectations for anyone but yourself , ... that is the only one you can control ... ! living with people quirks is always a challenge ... especially when you don't notice them at first ... most you'll automatically learn to ignore ... once you get more used to your new perspective .
 
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Drinking, like smoking, can be an 'associated habit, all this means is that we have learned to link the two with a certain task or function.
I know many players that do not drink, but put their instrument in their hand and the feeling for the need to have a drink appears. It is like a ritual they have associated with what they do, it may be a drink before they go on to play, nit equaly could be go for a ciggarette, or go to the bathroom, wash their hands etc...but they feel un-comfortable if they cannot do it.

If it quietens the mind, then go for it, having a drink to calm the nerves may just be a ritual that calms anxiety, maybe that anxiety occurs sometimes because there is no option to have a drink, so expectation, or the lack of it, plays a part.
Superstition????? Well maybe.....Pre-gig routine???....Defiantly if it becomes part of what you do.

The same can apply to giving up something as it does to adding something that we believe helps us.
So if giving up drink for the night and the gig goes well, reinforces the idea that it was a good thing and to continue with it.
Equally if we have a bad experiece it reinforces that we cannot give it up.

Playing the same set night after night is the same skill set, but the situation within which it is applied is different. So having a regular routine is familier, comfortable.....it settles us down and tells us "we have been here before, done this before, all is well and no reason to believe this will not be any different".
In the end it is the power, or the importance that we put on such things as to whether we believe any change will make a difference, we can of course say and do all we want, but id deep down inside we do not believe in what we do, it will surface a some point when under real pressure and expose us.

Since we are there to play music and entertain then that should be the focus, if we takes care of that then everything should fall into place....but that is not life, so we adapt and change to suit circumstance.
If that means sometimes we have a drink, then so be it, if it means sometimes we do not...then so be it...but it should never be an absolute of one or the other....that will bring a different set of issues, and if those issues affect the music or the playing then the original point is lost and giving up drinking has not stopped the issue, just changed it for another issue.

Each to their own, but just be aware of what is going on around you and act accordingly to suit the situation in your own thinking.
 
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One of the best groups to be in to maintain sobriety is AA. In AA you learn how to deal with challenge issues across all walks of life. You find a new group of friends that listen, support, and walk their talk. You practice and reciprocate. Consider looking for an AA group if you haven't found one.

If you are in a group that isn't a great fit, find another. This applies to AA or music groups. Best in your path!
 
I know several players who have given up the sauce entirely, and I never knew them any other way. And I think to myself, man, they must have been terrible when they drank. Otherwise, why make such a drastic, permanent change? They seem so sensible and easygoing now that it's hard to make it compute. However, they ARE the most reliable and dedicated players of all the many players I know, so the change clearly worked.
 
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Great post. I'm hoping I'm (pre) over-reacting to what may happen. The actions of others have gotten to me a few times and I guess I'm just cautious about the future.
Yeah, it is different when you see your band mates acting like that when your not on the same wasted page their on. I always have had a great time around friends wasted or not, but when ever anyone would get out of line or start really being difficult I was always the one who stopped it or the one everyone would come to for advise. I always look at the whole wide picture all the time. And NEVER EVER DWELL ON THE NEGATIVE, NEVER EVER! What always helped me is I'm the funny guy always making people laugh, don't ever make it to where your the party pooper the negative one, go with the flow. Before you know it everyone around you will have to slow down on the partying, stop, or die because of it. I got wife and kid, I want to be around a long time. From the age 20 to 40 I have seen at least 30 some people, good friends die around the area that I moved from 6 years ago all drug overdose, alcohol abuse, killed by girlfriend or boyfriend, you name it, and family members of old age. I have seen a lot of poppy in my life you only live one time make it happy and positive on your part. Don't make the issue be you! Meaning the problem or negative one.talk to your band mates, try to stay around the same page or before you know it their going to have to be slowing down soon or stopping too or have health issues. I got so many more things to say, but I think that's cool for now. Also check out Alice Cooper, a long time ago his wife said me or the drugs and alcohol.Alice Cooper said, YOU HONEY! And Alice is still alive and happy and successful, good choice Alice. Or you can still stay in those wild and crazy bands moving at a 100mph being totally strait and sober like TED NUGENT. KEEP ON ROCKIN!!!!! Look at it this way, for you the hard parts over, CONGRADS! :D:bassist::bassist: