I have used both the XVive U4 and the Sennheiser G4 IEM Systems. The XVive is what it is—an entry point to IEM—so it’s basically just channel selection and volume to start with. I have found the Sennheiser system to provide more than adequate volume with plenty of available headroom (Sensitivity). Neither of these systems have onboard EQ, but that’s not their intended function (you are years ahead of your time

). In both cases though, other factors influence how we perceive tone/volume and is probably why there are abundant discussions on the variety of earbuds themselves (to emphasize specific bass characteristics), and the importance of a good seal (for isolation and ultimately improvement in tonal quality). Can’t emphasize enough how important a good seal makes the difference in the thickness and hit of the lower frequencies. But you know this already.
Perhaps more to the point, if you are using a digital mixer, you might find you don’t need an additional headphone amp (or to be fair, I will say, I personally don’t need any other device). One can simply EQ their IEM Aux, independent of the FOH signal (which has its own separate EQ). Keep your own IEM level at Unity, (with all the other instruments at -3dB to -6dB) and EQ the Aux to suit your needs. The Aux EQ will color all the instruments in your personal mix, but I have found that using basic digital mixers (I have an XR18 and an A/H CQ18T) I can get a wonderful bass tone, accentuated to my liking (for me, that’s snappy and deep) and prominent in my ears. Have you tried this already and found it doesn’t get you where you want to be?