Hi TB'ers, I need some of your opinions on my feelings about a situation I'm struggling with (sorry in advance for the long rant): For the last year or so, I've been jamming with a three-piece hip-hop band (myself, drummer, and an MC/Bandleader). The MC is one of my wife's best friends and was one of the very few people at our wedding of less than 50 people. The drummer is his cousin. There are no gigs, and not even a setlist. Just every every few weeks we get together and improvise - I'll usually come up with a bassline or melody, drummer will come up with something that matches, and the MC will freestyle along with. Several months ago I bought a beautiful, top of the line MIM Fender Stratocaster. I decided to bring it to one of our jams, where it was just the three of us, in case I felt the urge to play it instead of the bass, or in case one of the other guys wanted to try it out. The MC has an amazing gift for knowing what sounds good, and is usually pretty decent on any instrument the first time he picks it up. Even if the drummer wanted to play the guitar, the MC could hop on the drums and we wouldn't lose a beat. One thing I should mention about my Strat is that it is not tuned to standard guitar tuning (EADGBE), it is tuned into perfect 4ths (EADGCF). In order to achieve this, I had to get to lower tensioned B/C and E/F strings. I did this so that I could learn one fingering for a major triad, and apply it anywhere on the fretboard. Also it made more sense to me - the bass is still my main instrument, and I didn't want to spend too much time on the guitar learning the fingering for every chord. Two sessions ago, the bandleader texted me and asked me to bring the guitar again so his guitarist friend could come along (who is apparently amazing at the guitar, yet doesn't own one? ). I didn't feel comfortable with the idea... Sure, I'd be there to oversee everything, but the C and F string would likely have to be re-tuned back to B and E, which would then have to be re-tuned to C and F, which annoys me a bit, and I'm just not too comfortable with the idea of someone else using it. Also, I like to keep my gear in pristine condition and I'm a little OCD about it, which is surely contributing to my negative feelings about the situation. I ended up cancelling the jam, saying that something came up. Soon after, I did get unmotivated to play (really not related to this at all), and I didn't pick up my bass for a few weeks. He texted me again for another jam session, but it also came with a request to bring my guitar for the same guitarist. I was even less in the mood to comply, since I wasn't even motivated to play bass on my own, so something came up again and I backed out. Last night, he texted me to come for next week... No request to bring my guitar was made yet, and I don't know what to do if he asks. I really do want come to the jam session, as I am now very motivated in playing again, and I look forward to it, but I'm still not comfortable with someone I don't know playing my Strat. Truthfully, I feel like a pretty big baby about this situation. I'm clearly not able to share, and I feel pretty immature with it all, but it is how I feel. Anyways, if you stuck in this far, I really appreciate it, and I'd really like to hear your opinions (positive or negative). Thanks.