He said "no", doesn't need to give you a reason. Deal with it.
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Am I asking too much from the drummer?
- Thread starter Axtman
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He said "no", doesn't need to give you a reason. Deal with it.
I'll go with the majority here.
I don't like car pooling, for a lot of the reasons already mentioned.
He clearly doesn't either, and it's almost certainly nothing personal about you.
Just accept it for what it is, and don't let it affect your relationship.
I don't like car pooling, for a lot of the reasons already mentioned.
He clearly doesn't either, and it's almost certainly nothing personal about you.
Just accept it for what it is, and don't let it affect your relationship.
BTW, I even offered to drive, and I would have to drive out of my way a little bit to get him and his drums.
If someone does a favor for me I always go out of my way to make up for it and then some. For example I borrowed my neighbors SUV and returned it washed and with a full tank of gas.
Oh well. It's his loss. I thought it would be fun to talk music rather than stare a taillights.
I got my truck back this afternoon. The repairs were about half the value of the truck. So it looks like I will be getting a new vehicle next year.
If someone does a favor for me I always go out of my way to make up for it and then some. For example I borrowed my neighbors SUV and returned it washed and with a full tank of gas.
Oh well. It's his loss. I thought it would be fun to talk music rather than stare a taillights.
I got my truck back this afternoon. The repairs were about half the value of the truck. So it looks like I will be getting a new vehicle next year.
I’d not carpool with my coworker or band mate.
Firstly 90 minutes drive to rehearse is not something I would ever do. I'd be looking for any excuse not to make that drive.
Either way, you wouldn't ride with me. I value that alone time. I have to be on and social all day for work and I find it exhausting. I require that recharge time.
And I prefer to be the master of my own destiny. I leave when I want to leave.
Either way, you wouldn't ride with me. I value that alone time. I have to be on and social all day for work and I find it exhausting. I require that recharge time.
And I prefer to be the master of my own destiny. I leave when I want to leave.
I was one of two drivers with a license and vehicle in a band of 5 guys living amongst three states. Drove hundreds of extra miles weekly for 2 years " for the band". Also had to drive the truck a bunch, not really by choice.
My favorite non-musical past-time the past few years is driving the curves and back roads solo in a quick, agile V8 European ( now a Japanese) sedan with 450+ HP. I never want to return to those early band days of driving the rest of the world.
Selfish? Perhaps but I have BT-DT and will happily accept being called a selfish b@$tard for this particular idiosyncrasy.
My favorite non-musical past-time the past few years is driving the curves and back roads solo in a quick, agile V8 European ( now a Japanese) sedan with 450+ HP. I never want to return to those early band days of driving the rest of the world.
Selfish? Perhaps but I have BT-DT and will happily accept being called a selfish b@$tard for this particular idiosyncrasy.
Unfortunately a lot of people want to drive alone and that's why it takes me 90 minutes to get there. Most of the traffic is stop-n-go.
Sometimes new guys are trying to figure out who is who in a band because they may choose not to stay so they don’t want to get too chummy right away. This is normal.
Give him time, he may ask you down the track once he feels comfortable.
I used to do the same thing and pick up the drummer for gigs, as good as it is to have company I just want to pack up and go home to bed after we’re done because I work the next day. Having to drop someone off on the way adds a half hour to the trip and it gets tiring.
Give him time, he may ask you down the track once he feels comfortable.
I used to do the same thing and pick up the drummer for gigs, as good as it is to have company I just want to pack up and go home to bed after we’re done because I work the next day. Having to drop someone off on the way adds a half hour to the trip and it gets tiring.
When I said "new" I should have qualified that he is the newest member of the band. He has played 3 or 4 (maybe more) gigs with us and practiced the same number of times.
I doubt it's anything personal. I wouldn't want to carpool to practice for many of the reasons given. maybe I want to go somewhere else after. Maybe I need to be going to practice right from work or from somewhere else. I don't want to be tied down to always having to hook up with someone else to go to practice or gigs.
You want to spend 3 hours in a confined space with a drummer. Just think about this for a bit, is saving gas money worth your sanity?
Simple thing to do anytime you're asking someone else to car pool is offer to come to their house to depart for the gig. That way he doesn't have to drive out of the way.
And yet you seem so sane ...
Bad radiators won't make your engine sound funny but they will make it seize up if you run out of fluid and it overheats. Made the mistake of driving a Honda Accord back in the 80's when the radiator had a bad leak. Sure enough, it overheated and blew the head gasket. Ended up buying a new head and installing it and then spun a bearing on the crankshaft. Was not a good idea to put a new head and valves on an old bottom end (125,000+ miles). Good news was I got one of the low mileage engines from Japan for about $400, swapped out the distributor so it was legal to drive in CA and put almost another 200,000 miles on that engine before it died.
It's smart to replace that radiator if it has a major leak or it's just old and starting to leak. But if you still hear weird noises from the engine, tell your mechanic about it because a bad radiator might hiss at you but it won't make weird engine noises.
The bad news that you don't know yet is that a cracked radiator in and of itself will not cause strange engine noises. The strange noise you heard was the engine self destructing through detonation due to overheating. If you are lucky, you didn't sustain permanent engine damage. If you haven't yet, you should convey your engine noises story to your mechanic so he can investigate collateral damage.
It is interesting that such trivial things get discussed here. I am surprised I even read up to page 2 myself. Maybe it will make me a better bassist and increase my newly acquired apathy towards drummers.
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Consider this......
Maybe he has a secret penchant for show tunes,........
or Barry Manilow.......
and he would prefer it remain secret!
Maybe he has a secret penchant for show tunes,........
or Barry Manilow.......
and he would prefer it remain secret!
