• TalkBass has been independent since 1998. Add your voice.
    Create a free account to reply to discussions, view embedded media, and browse with fewer display ads.
    Join free Log in
    Want zero display ads or expanded classifieds tools? Compare plans.

awkward situation!

#41
well, i personally don't believe some of what you're saying.

and one thing i've learned about parents, is that no matter what you say, the way they think is the best way to parent you, is how they are going to act.

so i stick by my first post in this thread.

no.
 
#43
Hey, man, I'm a youth worker at my church; I spend most of my free time hanging out with middle school and highschool guys. If one of the freshmen/sophomore guys asked me my opinion on a situation like this, I'd smack him on the back of the head and call him an idiot (not really). How can you possibly think this is a good idea? Regardless of whether or not anything happens, it's inappropriate for you to spend a week at a girl's house. You're getting too close to the line; we're supposed to flee from situations that could get us into trouble, not dive headlong into them. Don't flirt with temptation.

Talk to your youth pastor or favorite youth worker about it. They'll hopefully be able to expand on what I'm talking about.

oh yeah, and like others have said, going to Christian camp doesn't necessarily mean much... and I'll just leave it at that... :scowl:
 
#45
Toasted said:
I don't see why there's suchy a fuss over 15 year olds having inter-sex friendships. It sounds like some of you are scared of your own bodies.
Click to expand...
Joe,

i hope you don't mean me.

i personally don't care whether he wants to have a 5 day sexathon or nor. 15 yr olds are already having sex all time time, (i first had sex at 16, so i'm not judging)

he asked whether or not we thought his parents would let him go, i answered.
 
#47
oh boy as it turns out im not going... until later. I signed up for another week at camp so we probably won't do it until mid august now. I'm sad but happy at the same time. I get to see my other friends but i was looking forward to this trip a lot. oh well. :rolleyes: i'll just have to go later.
 
#48
Thunderbird91 said:
if i did compare them i didnt mean too. I was just saying i am the same way with both of them. no thanks.
That doesn't matter. We've talked about this actually. were all against premarrital sex. and I'm not going to be doing anything. If I do i'll give you all 20 bucks.
Click to expand...

Dude, you never know...trust me

things just spontainiously happen, even if previously opposed

plus I could really use 20 bucks, lol :p jkz

and if I were your parent, I would probably not let you go (and yes, I am too young to be a parent. but I still oppose, even if you claim you do not think that way, we all have our inner-pervertedness that ultimatly arises at the wrong (or right:) )times)

have fun
 
#51
Thunderbird91 said:
oh boy as it turns out im not going... until later
Click to expand...


Gives you time to save up that $20 you promised each of us! I tell you, this is going to be the most expensive lay of your life.

But, I guess you're saved a beating from her boyfriend. Like I said, you don't want him having you under the cosh!
 
#52
mike phillips said:
tell me about it, mine ended in marriage.
Click to expand...
I actually laughed out loud at that one.



To the OP:

A good portion of people who replied to this initially aren't much older than you. I know that Bob Clayton, Superbassman2000, and myself are merely 19, or thereabouts, and we're thinking back to a few years ago.

Knowing what we know now, would our parents have trusted us? Should they have? If we were in our parents shoes, would we let it happen? HELL NO.

I'm 19, I know some of the stunts I've pulled, and I'm a mild mannered guy. I know I pulled even dumber stunts when I was 15.

I wouldn't let you go. But that's me.
 
#53
I just think its funny that no one here cares that the parents are going to be there. We have all been there and done that...even with the parents home. lmao.

But he seems like hes a good kid, and if he has not had any past trust issues with parents, I say let him go!!

But I would say the other TBer had good advice about asking a youth pastor before going.
 
#54
I dunno... were I a father I seriously doubt I'd be letting anyone short of a eunich sleep over with my daughter for five days (or her boyfyriend), and even then I'd have some problems. Although I'll probably be that crazy protective father thats all "don't have random sex for five days" so I could be biased.

From your parents side, I might be marginally more forgiving, but knowing what I did at that age, probably not. I know I don't know you, and if you are better behaved then I was, then I hope you go, have fun, and don't do anything foolish.
 
#55
tplyons said:
I actually laughed out loud at that one.



To the OP:

A good portion of people who replied to this initially aren't much older than you. I know that Bob Clayton, Superbassman2000, and myself are merely 19, or thereabouts, and we're thinking back to a few years ago.

Knowing what we know now, would our parents have trusted us? Should they have? If we were in our parents shoes, would we let it happen? HELL NO.

I'm 19, I know some of the stunts I've pulled, and I'm a mild mannered guy. I know I pulled even dumber stunts when I was 15.

I wouldn't let you go. But that's me.
Click to expand...
hey, i'm 20 ;)

but i still agree. i can remember what its like to be 15, and i know how you feel...however, i still don't think it's a good idea, as if you go and her parents aren't always around, things have a good chance of happening, and if her parents are around, what are you going to do?
what if her boyfriend shows up?


btw, did you ever tell us what your parents think or what her parents think?
 
#56
if my son wanted to stay over at a chicks house who was fine as that, id let him lol. but id have a talk with him, about stuff. iv had my tree choped down by my parents many times lol its not cool. but id still make sure the parents are there, make sure n o wild parties are going on. :p


now, if my daughter wanted to go go 2 hours away for 5 days to sleep at a dudes house, hell no

if my daughter wanted to bring a boy over for 5 days, hell no.


call it a double standard if youd like, but thats just the way i am. because, as much as i trust my daughter, i dont trust that guy



edit: im 20, if that matters


jimb213 said:
Hey, man, I'm a youth worker at my church; I spend most of my free time hanging out with middle school and highschool guys. If one of the freshmen/sophomore guys asked me my opinion on a situation like this, I'd smack him on the back of the head and call him an idiot (not really). How can you possibly think this is a good idea? Regardless of whether or not anything happens, it's inappropriate for you to spend a week at a girl's house. You're getting too close to the line; we're supposed to flee from situations that could get us into trouble, not dive headlong into them. Don't flirt with temptation.

Talk to your youth pastor or favorite youth worker about it. They'll hopefully be able to expand on what I'm talking about.

oh yeah, and like others have said, going to Christian camp doesn't necessarily mean much... and I'll just leave it at that... :scowl:
Click to expand...


i really dont agree with any of that. lets take into account that these kids, are actually just friends, with no sexual intensions. then staying over a friends house and hanging out like this, will make a really nice friendship with a really big bond for a really long time.

now, i have a friend, with a very strict mother, so she isnt allowed outside EVER, aside from school and walking the dog. shes barely has friends, and has no real bond with anybody.

i have another friend who has very liberal parents and because of that has a lot of friends with a lot of strong bonds with a large variety of people.

this may be straying away from the point and be at the extrems but its something to take into consideration. at this age, people are very impressionable and these are the years that they start to develope socialy and this may effect how they treat their kids in the future
 
#57
^ Good point... I just have a little trouble believing kids as I know what all of myfriends did (whether or not their parents were home). I think that they just have to be to scared to do anything wrong, then let out to have fun! At least, thats how I was raised.
 
#59
so in discussing a quasi-similar situation with some other youth workers last night, I brought up this topic, and one of my friends said that you should stay with one of the girls' guy friends. Stay with the boyfriend or one of the other guys from her youth group, and it'll cut way down on the opportunity for "naughty behavior" :ninja:

not to get too preachy (you seem pretty into the whole church thing, though, so I feel I can go here), but the bible calls us to be "above reproach." staying at this girls house, regardless of whether anything happens, leaves you, and her, open to rumors, speculation, and gossip, not to mention temptation. As a Christian, you shouldn't want to open that door. Stay at a guy's house, and you can still hang out with them all day, but then avoid the complications that come with staying at the girl's house. It's win-win.
 
#60
jimb213 said:
so in discussing a quasi-similar situation with some other youth workers last night, I brought up this topic, and one of my friends said that you should stay with one of the girls' guy friends. Stay with the boyfriend or one of the other guys from her youth group, and it'll cut way down on the opportunity for "naughty behavior" :ninja:

not to get too preachy (you seem pretty into the whole church thing, though, so I feel I can go here), but the bible calls us to be "above reproach." staying at this girls house, regardless of whether anything happens, leaves you, and her, open to rumors, speculation, and gossip, not to mention temptation. As a Christian, you shouldn't want to open that door. Stay at a guy's house, and you can still hang out with them all day, but then avoid the complications that come with staying at the girl's house. It's win-win.
Click to expand...
so I should stay with someone who I don't know? I don't know if his family would be cool with a stranger sleeping in their house.
 

Latest posts

Top Bottom
Back