I placed the loading cap per the instructions in post #1, second para: "just add a capacitor between the pickup hot lead, where it connects to the volume pot, and ground"From your description , you’re putting capacitors in a different position than where a loading cap would be. A loading cap does not take away the tone control’s function.
Your description of using a higher value in the normal tone cap position is spot on- at max tone there is no audible difference across a wide range of capacitor values. There’s a thread on how tone controls work (a sticky) that describes this (with response curves)
But: I think I removed the tone cap prior to the loading cap exercise! Did I just prove that absent it's cap the tone pot becomes inert?