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Do your parents Come to your shows?

Discussion in 'Bass Humor & Gig Stories [BG]' started by markoc, Jan 11, 2017.

  1. RichardW


    Feb 25, 2016
    near Philly
    Alas, both my parents had passed on by the time I had my first gig (at age 50). I think my dad would have come to gigs, but my step-mom thought rock music was "noise" so I doubt she would have attended. My mother-in-law, who I love dearly, has come to several shows over the years.
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  2. Great question! My folks bought me my first bass for my fourteenth birthday after I'd been bugging them for one for about two years. They haven't made every gig since (Feb will mark 26yrs playing) but they have always been very supportive of me. Everything from a drive to buy new gear as a kid without a license to letting me tour for two weeks at a time through my last two years of high school, they've always been MEGA supportive. They chaperoned my gigs before I was nineteen (legal drinking age in Canada) and trusted me not to go too crazy while I travelled great distances with a group of older musicians in my mid teens - unescorted. I'm pushing forty now and at 81 & 72, they still get-out from time to time be it to see my band or my backing people at a local event. I was blessed with very loving and supportive folks (and now, a very loving and supportive wife ;)) and I am very thankful they let me choose my path, find my own way and didn't slam a foot down about my playing. I'm certain the thought crossed their minds from time to time. Even when my band was in the basement rattling the rafters and shaking the dishes from the cupboard they let it go. I'm lucky they are still with me and my heart goes out to all of you who have lost yours. I'm sure there are many happy spirits around us, very proud of our accomplishments and grooving to the beat you are helping to lay down.
  3. MCS4


    Sep 26, 2012
    Fort Lauderdale, FL
    My parents come to my shows all the time, and have done so since I was a teen. I am over 30 and play fairly heavy metal.

    It is very common for people at the shows to ask them if they are parents of someone in one of the bands.
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  4. DirtDog


    Jun 7, 2002
    The Deep North
    I played in a couple of bands with my old man. The whole family would come to the shows. But that was a long time ago! My guitarist and and drummer's (they're brothers) folks come to many of our shows. Mind you their mom books us in a lot of places and their dad has been playing country on the regional scene for decades!
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  5. RustyAxe


    Jul 8, 2008
    Those were some get-ups! I did notice the Guild Thunderbass amp. I had one in the 60's.
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  6. buldog5151bass

    buldog5151bass Kibble, milkbones, and P Basses. And redheads.

    Oct 22, 2003
    My parents always supported my music. My father is no longer here, but when he used to visit several years ago, I would try to have one gig booked so he could come. My mother still comes to shows when she can, and it is a place she would enjoy (bar or private gigs, no - restaurant or festival gigs, yes). I'm 51.
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  7. socialleper

    socialleper Bringer of doom and top shelf beer Supporting Member

    May 31, 2009
    Canyon Country, CA
    When I was younger I was in bands that either played shows in places I didn't want them going to, or I didn't feel like the band was quite ready. They both passed away during my hiatus from music, so they never really got to see me get it right.
  8. MoeTown1986

    MoeTown1986 Supporting Member

    Sep 14, 2010
    SoMD (Mechanicsville)
    My parents and even my in-laws come out whenever we play locally to them. They enjoy seeing me do what I love.
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  9. lz4005


    Oct 22, 2013
    That's really cool. It's great they're able to do that.

    My parents don't go to bars or stay out late, so they've only been to one gig I've played in the last 10 years. An afternoon patio thing at a restaurant.

    Get this: They left early because my 72 year old dad had to go to his own gig!
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  10. pcake

    pcake Supporting Member

    Sep 20, 2011
    Los Angeleez
    my mother came to some of my shows till she was unable to get around. i still miss her.
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  11. Spidey2112


    Aug 3, 2016
    Love it... way it should be. Many moons ago, my Mom and Aunt went to one of our shows, in a less seedy side of town... Sat them up front, and made sure both of them felt like they were part of the show... I'll never forget it. Great topic, Mark!
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  12. Spidey2112


    Aug 3, 2016
    That, 1000 times over...
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  13. Sweet Willie

    Sweet Willie

    Dec 31, 2014
    Former moderator for now non-active Nordstrand Forum
    My parents encouraged me to learn music, and supported my study of a couple of different instruments. My mom even accompanied me to W 48th St when I bought my first real amp and cab (can you say Peavey Mk IV and 1516?) and helped me get the gear home (at least hailed and paid for the taxi...). That said, my mom has always said she has no ear for music, and my dad (RIP) listened to music tons at home. Plenty of classical records spun on the turntable.

    My mother never has come to a gig, and I expect she never will. My dad never saw me play until I hit my late 30s, and it was great to see him out at a couple of Lower Eastside clubs in his 80s, usually talking to the bartender about how he used to listen to me practicing piano and trumpet as a kid, "but look at him now!"

    Next will be for my kids to see me play a gig...
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  14. Televator


    Aug 24, 2011
    Mine don't.
  15. totallywink

    totallywink Supporting Member

    My mom will still come out to see my band play (and my brother's band as well) and usually stays for the first set. As she leaves she always makes sure to wave to the band and then we all get on a mic and say 'bye mom'.... that's kinda cool.
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  16. Doctor_Clock

    Doctor_Clock The Moon Machine Gold Supporting Member

    May 6, 2013
    Brooklyn, NY
    My parents used to come to my shows, but they would hide in the back so I could not see them. I had no idea they did that until about 20 years later my mom told me.
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  17. My dad came to most of them while he was around.

    When on the road, it was a total treat to see him in the front row..

    My mom will now come to the earlier gigs ... periodically to the later...
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  18. Jloch86


    Aug 1, 2016
    New Jersey
    I purposely don't ask anyone to come to my shows so when people say, "Hey have you heard of (band name)", I can say "Yeah. I'm the bass player."
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  19. Consider yourself blessed!
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  20. mam1862

    mam1862 Supporting Member

    Nov 10, 2008
    Northfield, Ohio
    I started playing when I was 16 and now I am 55 and both of my parents came to watch my bands play over the years many times. Growing up music was a big part of my immediate and extended family. My dad at one point was a professional keyboard/accordion player so he always enjoyed it. I even had the opportunity to have my dad come up and play the keys with band and that was something I'll never forget. Good stuff.
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