The only drama I "create" is due to the only goal I have, which is making the music sound good. I tend to be really easy going as long as everyone is capable, doing their part, and not sticking themselves too much into the musical contributions of the other members. My goal is to create a good sound and my method is to surround myself with good players who don't need their hands held and can lay down competent chops.
If you can do that, I'm good. If you can't do it, or if you feel the need to get all control-freaky about someone else's perfectly competent contribution, we will have a problem. My solution to that problem will probably be to walk, because I don't need the stress that bands generate when they aren't functional.