I love playing bass. I really do. Whether it's practicing at home or playing with good friends, I get great enjoyment out of this wonderful instrument. That being said, other than helping out at my local church, I don't 'play out' much anymore. And this week has reminded me why... A drummer friend of mine asked me to join a guitarist and him, in order to form a trio for an upcoming private party. Pay is decent and the gig is supposed to be a pretty swanky affair. Granted, I've never met the guitarist, but he has a decent reputation as a good player. So we got together for a couple of practices, just to get to know each other musically. We immediately clicked. But during our most recent practice, the guitarist (we were practicing in his home) asked to take a break. He invited us into the next room where he proceeded to light a small pipe and start smoking. I must have had an expression of shock, because he said, "What? You don't smoke weed?" I politely replied, "No" and proceeded back into the other room (followed by the equally shocked and embarrassed drummer). As practice continued, the guitarist was now playing sloppy and calling out the wrong chords. After only a few songs, I said, "I think we've got it," packed up my gear and left. I know some of you might say that this is par for the course, as a musician. But I was not happy. I felt completely disrespected. I'm a business owner with a wife and kids. I don't drink or do drugs. And yes, while weed is increasingly becoming no big deal, in my state it's illegal. I don't want to be around it or even be guilty by association. My drummer friend apologized profusely when we discussed it the next day. He said he had no idea that was going to happen and was equally as upset that we were both put in that situation. And since organized this trio, he assured me he would address this with the guitarist. But, he also completely understood if I don't want to continue the with gig. If you were in my shoes, how would respond? Would you continue with the gig? Would you have walked out of that practice? Or would you have just blown it off and kept playing? -------------------------------------------------- UPDATE: The guitarist and I were able to talk it out a bit. We both owned up to the areas where we could have handled things better. This thread was very instrumental in helping me see where I was wrong or mistaken. Thanks for that TB.