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Dueling loyalties

#81
blue4 said:
Dust off those Fleetwood Mac albums! John McVie is the greatest. I'm a little jealous. We can't find one damn singer, and you've got two.
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Technically four. I sing some lead.

The drummer does too.

'Bout to be some four part harmonies, and everyone but the guitar player taking some lead vocals.
 
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#84
craigie said:
There must have been a reason the dead kept Donna godchaux around too. Certainly not the vocals....
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Donna Jean was a session vocalist at Muscle Shoals before she hooked up with the Dead.

Bunk McNulty said:
Seriously, it is vocal firepower that sets bands on a higher level. (First person to mention Jerry Garcia gets a pie in the face...)
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Jerry had both. He had the perfect voice for some of the songs he did, when the &&(,£^#.? heroin wasn't in control.
 
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#85
Recently quit my band of almost four years. One of the vocalists started counting songs they did in the last set list versus others and established ratios of his songs versus others. At that point, I knew it was time to roll. I already quit, but I'm getting back with them for one last good bye show. The rest of the band decided it was time to go too. Nobody is angry at anyone, we just realize that we can't meet everyone's needs / desires and those aren't going to change.
 
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#86
Staredge said:
Donna Jean was a session vocalist at Muscle Shoals before she hooked up with the Dead.



Jerry had both. He had the perfect voice for some of the songs he did, when the &&(,£^#.? heroin wasn't in control.
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Do you have a preferred pie? We can do seasonal fruit, or pecans, or marinara, for that matter...:roflmao:
 
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#94
Stumbo said:
Why is she insecure? Ask her that. No one is talking about kicking her out.
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You didn't notice I was joking when I wrote that "Fire her"... I wasn't talking seriously at that point.

I'm 44 y.o. and I usually deal with this kind of situations like an adult : talking seriously and trying to find a solution... I'm a very diplomatic guy and I always try to find a "everybody wins" solution.
 
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#96
two fingers said:
Technically four. I sing some lead.

The drummer does too.

'Bout to be some four part harmonies, and everyone but the guitar player taking some lead vocals.
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Damn I'm jealous! In my career it's been so hard to get players to sing at all. Singing harmony is my favourite thing. Nothing lifts your spirit more than being surrounded by voices in harmony.
 
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#98
two fingers said:
Update!

The impossible happened.

The meeting got canceled due to a couple of last-minute scheduling conflicts.

I couldn't let it go another day without a resolution.

So I called her.

It started off a bit rough. I didn't "lay into her" but I wasn't pulling any punches either. It started off with my explaining that I thought this whole mess was ridiculous, but that I thought the potential of this band warrented at least talking it through before throwing in the towel. (Up until that point she had no idea that this was serious enough that I would consider leaving the band.)

So off we went.

I first asked her to express in her own words what was bugging her. I listened.

Then I explained that nothing I was about to say was personal. Keys guy and I are friendly, but not friends. We don't throw cookouts or double date with the wives or anything. We had no relationship outside of music. But we did respect each other's work and had wanted to be in a band together for years.

Then I laid out my case for keeping him point by point. After the first point, the most amazing thing happened. She said "Well, when you put it that way, it makes sense."
:wideyed:

"Hold up. We might be getting somewhere, Twofer. Back off on the attitude and let's see if we can hammer this out" said the voice in my head....or ONE of the voices in my head anyway.

Then I explained another point, and another.

Then I asked if the mystery guy had ever actually WORKED with the keys guy (turns out he had not.)

Both of us lightened up. Both of us laid out exactly how we feel about it. And both of us agreed to move forward WITH the keys guy. (The only condition was that she reeeeeeally wants to sing that dayum Chris Stapleton version of Tennessee Whiskey. Honestly, he does it better but she doesn't suck at it. So I can live with that.)

So, after the first gig, we'll talk again specifically about how well he fits in the band (which I have every reason to believe with be extremely well).

That's fair.

He's in the band. He will never even know we talked. And if he somehow acts like a dipstick I'll have to eat crow and send him packing myself (but I don't think that'll happen).


Situation resolved for now!

Fingers crossed! :D

Thanks for letting me vent everyone. Your attention and advice has been appreciated.

Now let's go sing some harmonies! :hyper:
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I think that proves that talking it out really does work when handled correctly. I believe you two having a one on one was key to hashing this thing out, and its funny how honesty can sometimes relax people and make them open up, and ultimately, meet you in the middle. Good job!
 
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#100
two fingers said:
Update!

The impossible happened...
(snip)
Situation resolved for now!

Fingers crossed! :D

Thanks for letting me vent everyone. Your attention and advice has been appreciated.

Now let's go sing some harmonies! :hyper:
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Good work! Communication can be an amazing conflict resolver.
Mostly, though, I had to post on the "Fingers crossed!", @two fingers . Maybe you need to change your avatar... :D
 
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